Help me gettting an remodel a home

This is my mother and her name is Gloria she does not know I stumbled up on this while she had it was open so I started one to see if we can help. Thanks for looking

     In 2007 I some how came in contact with viral menigitis there were two other people that got it at the same time from March to April 2007.  We lost the child I was carrying and with in three weeks I was in the hospital and told if I had of waited three more days I would of been dead.  IT took them three days and transferring me to another hospital to find out that it was not a blood clot, stroke or MS as original believe.  While the told my husband that it would take a yr but I should gain everything that had be altered. But to find out that would never be the same.  What caused me to go to the hospitat when I did was passing out.  My daughter who is now eight was with my best friend at the time because I thought after the miscarriage I just had the flu and was run down from all of that but to find out later it was more was heartbreaking.  From there I went back to work as soon as my dr would release me but no had told me to take it easy and file for disability/  The specialist told me later I never showed up for my appointments (did not know I had any) but even if I had the damage of the lesion that were there could not of been stopped or prevented.  I am not totally disabled with memory issues, my balance is off and have to sit in the floor to clean up trash.  I forget simple things i have know since forever.  My social security number was the first thing I notice I could not recall when asked that and my drivers license have always been the same.  But on bad days I can not remember them.  We lost our house once I could not hold a job and would get very emotional but could not understand things I would catch on to in the past very quickly.   I almost burned the house down several times so now we do not use a oven /stove by turning them on and walking away from it.  My husband has been going to school since he was laid off 1) his job started cutting back in 2008 and 2) the fear of not know how i would be function start taking the toll on us.  He was on third so the kids were home when he was at work but I was not bad enough for state to send someone in and we could not afford it.  I lost my job with in three months of him getting laid off but before that I started having my dr send me for test things I knew how to do were not coming easy to me and I had to start admitting it was not right.  The therapist told me that the mind hid alot from me kinda like crazy people not knowing they are crazy, Their reality is that life is good and they do not know any different.   I was losing money like I lost $300 while shopping no one every turned it and and I never got it back I cried for days over that and it was hard still is.  I am the reason we lost our 6.76 acre farm, our rent is never going to go down.  But I  am hoping we can clear up some debt so we can purchase a place or get some seed money to get a foreclosure and do remodeling.  My girls are getting out of school so my funds will be gettng cut in half.  With them wanting to live on campus I can't ask them to stay and support me.  The place we are currently rent for $700 a month will be put up for sale also at half the cost so that is also an option but it will need new kitchen, roof is leaking ($5000 and up), new well $starting at $6000) But we would be happy for help at this point .