Hey everyone my name is Blessing, I’m a girl & turning 21 this year. I’m a 2nd year student & with no job. I only depend on my mom. My dad passed away when I was 8.
For the past fews weeks I haven’t been sleeping due to stress & depression. I was born with diastema the middle gap between two teeth and which at first made me feel so uncomfortable and if affected my self esteem as I was dealing with my extreme asymmetrical breasts (they make it hard for me when wearing a bra and I have to put tissues in the other cup of bra to make them look symmetrical) . As a child I was bullied alot people made fun of my breasts, gap and my physical appearance even the closest people like my aunties,they would make fun about it and also I remember some boys saying my head is of a shape of monkey. Back to my gap, I wanted to close the gap with braces so bad but my mom couldn’t afford them. It was in 2017 when began to learn how to appreciate my imperfections and it was hard even now it’s still hard, but I can’t change how I look. Just when I was starting to love myself the way I look , in 2018 I realised there was a new gap forming on my upper teeth just next to the tooth after the middle gap I was born with. I then ignored it because my mom couldn’t afford dentist consultation fees and I dont have medical aid. 2019 came and the new gap got wider than my natural gap, I can’t able to wash my teeth the area where the new gap has been formed bleeds alot, I can’t eat and at night when I try to sleep my teeth pains. Also my gums on that area are permanently sore and the tooth is forcefully pulling itself out. I can’t imagine living my life normal without my front teeth. I’m still 21 that would completely kill the little self esteem I’m holding on and bury it. I told my mom about it, she was able to give me R1200 for consultation fee. I went to see a dentist today & she ran all the tests and x-ray. She said my teeth were fine but notice something strange with the bone that holds my teeth. The area of the bone is dark & it shouldn’t be. There’s something spreading and she couldn’t figure out what is it. She then referred me to a specialist doctor . First consultation was R2000. I have an infection named peria-apical abscess and the area it has spread is big. I need R20 000 for surgery to remove the infection and if I dont raise it very soo it’s just a matter of time I lose all my upper teeth. My mom earns only R 15 000,she pay monthly bond fees plus water and lights, my brother school fees, transport fees, grocery at home and R1000 for grocery at college. I use student loans to cover for fees. I honestly dont know where I’m gonna get this R20000 that’s why I desperately came here. I’m pleading with everone who comes across this post to help me out p