We have been having a very hard past year and it is just getting worse daily. I am trying to save up the money to get ourselves a place to live. I cannot rely on family or help from the state and I have been out of work for 2 years and am tired of being homeless with my kids and going from place to place daily just so they can sleep and shower. My girls are my life and if I cannot get help fast I am afraid of the state finding out and taking them away from me. I do not drink, smoke or party and have always been able to provide for my own without assistance but there is nothing here for me in NJ except heartache, helplessness and dispair. I do know people everywhere are having a hard time but I always am willing to help others when I can and hopefully this time someone can help me.
A little about me I was working in the medical field as a medical manager and was able to support my girls on my own (no assistance from the state) since 2007. In 2010 my boss decided to close his practice after 30 years and this is where my life started going down hill. At the time he closed the practice I was also going to college for my Associates which I have since completed, but I have had to put on hold my goal of achieving a Bachelors degree. Any ways since then I have been finding it difficult to find a REAL and steady job, you might ask why does she say real? Well in NJ there have been a lot of scam jobs around and I have twice fallen for them and done work for free and never got paid. In the time since 2010 while I was looking for work and put school on hold my then boyfriend was helping me with my bills. In 2011 he decided to move out (but we remained together) to have his own space as we were fighting due to my stress of needing a steady income. Anyways when he moved out it became harder for me to keep up with the rent and in 11/2012 was evicted onto the streets with my kids. At the same time Hurricane Sandy hit so no shelters or assistance was available to me. Being on the streets and in my car my then boyfriend allowed us to stay with him until I can get back on my feet. Long story short still no job and according to welfare I do not qualify for assistance as I still receive unemployment and I have to have NO INCOME for them to help me and my girls.
In July 2013 my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me via text and stated for my girls and I to be vacated from his home before he came home with all of our belongings. He has refused to speak to me and has since moved on. Since then my girls and I have been staying with a different friend day to day and I went to stay with my mother who put us out as she wanted me to pay all her bills when I am trying to save up to move into our own place. I have had to use all my savings to try and keep up with my bills and get food and clothing for my girls. My daughters father (not my ex) does not help out or even care about our situation and since he does not reside in my state there is nothing that can be done according to New Jersey Probation.
P.S. I have not been picky with seeking employment even willing to walk dogs and still have not had any luck.