Help Lynette Get Home and Heal Her Life

 Lynette has had somewhat of a tragic life. A life full of Pain,Loss,Disappointment,Chaos, and Tragedy. Born in 1968, the second of 3 girls a.k.a. "The Middle Child", Lynette was born a "Daddy's Girl" or "Tomboy". Unfortunately, "Daddy" was an abusive alcoholic, but confused little Lynette thought he was just below God. Lynette's life was full of chaos due to the alcoholic and abusive father even as a small child. He frequently blew up in abusive rages, mostly aimed at Lynette's Mother, but occationally aimed at Lynette and her older sister; her younger sister was too young to remember most of it. Lynette felt very alone in the world, even with a loving family and loads of so called "friends" around. She often escaped into fantacy worlds like "Middle Earth", pretending to be a Hobbit or an Elf. She was never comfortable being Lynette; Lynette wasn't good enough for anyone or anything. At age 13, after a terrible fight between her Mom and Dad that became violent, Lynette's mother finally decided she had enough and told him she wanted a divorce. This put Lynette in a very uncomfortable position, as she was 13, and the law stated she had to choose whether she was going to live with her mom, or her dad. Her older sister chose her mom, as she had never gotten along with her dad. Her younger sister was too young, only 5, and it was predetermined that she would go with her mom. So the pressure was on Lynette to make this huge decision; live with dad, who was abusive and an alcoholic, but of course Lynette WAS his favorite, or go with her sisters and live with her mom. Lynette's dad filled her with all sorts of crazy ideas like, " we can have partys and all your friends can come over all the time" and " you don't have to go to school if you live with me". Her mom, of course, said," you will have to help out more with chores, and watch your sister for me while I work; do all your homework and no goofing around.". Lynette, had one of the most difficult choices to make,one that truly should not be put on the shoulders of a 13 year old child. She was scared. Oddly, Lynette ultimately chose to go with her sisters and live with her mom. After all, even though she was a "Daddy's Girl", he still did many things that were abusive, mostly towards her mother, but if everyone was gone, who would he turn to in his alcoholic rages? She was too afraid to stay alone with her dad. This ultimately broke her dad's heart, and almost overnight he turned his rage and cruelty to Lynette. He began abusing her every chance he got her alone. Lynette was heartbroken and afraid. She then turned to her so called "friends" for escape, who introduced her to drugs and gave them to her freely, along with alcohol. That seemed to numb all the pain for her, and her life began to go on a downward spiral. After many bad events, things you can read about in her book she is writing someday, Lynette decided she was going to change her life around; do better. Then, one tragic day, at age 16, Lynette came home from school and was told her dad had died. A massive heart attack, they said. This event devistated Lynette, as she loved her dad so much, but due to the abusing and volitile relationship since she broke his heart by choosing to live with her mom, the last words she had said to her dad were, " I HATE YOU". Those words will haunt Lynette forever I think. After her father's passing, Lynette was trying to make good with her life. She was going to school, doing her chores, and was trying to do better for her mom and sister. She had her heart broken by her highschool Bo, which was another devistation, but with a loving and supportive mom and family, she got through it. And what better way to get over a man who broke your heart, than getting another man to go out with; and not just any man, the handsome new guy in town who had a motorcycle! Payback for a broken heart. But once again, tragedy would strike Lynette's life, only this time, it would be the worst tragedy of her life. One evening, Lynette and her motorcycle man were out for an evening ride. Lynette's mom had begged her not to get on the back of that motorcycle, in fear for her life, as she had a very bad feeling that night. But, Lynette being Lynette, assured her mom that her motorcycle man was a safe rider and followed all the traffic laws. Against all her mom's protests, she and her motorcycle man headed out for thier evening ride. About half way to thier destination, on a beautiful 45mph backroad highway, just cruising along, wind in her hair, nothing but the sound of the motor and the wind, beautiful scenery all around, Lynette's life took a sudden, almost deadly, life changing turn. Out of nowhere, in just a flash, a Drunk Driver in a van, doing speeds exceeding 85mph, lost control on a curve in the road, and smashed right into Lynette and her motorcycle man, taking Lynette right off the motorcycle, attaching her to the van, as it flipped several times, smashing Lynette over and over onto the pavement, throwing her around like a ragdoll, ripping her frail 95lb. body up, crushing and breaking her bones, and ripping her left leg to nothing but scraps of mangled parts and missing bones. Miraculously, Lynette was completely awake and aware of the entire event, although it all seemed to be a bit slow motion. Lynette knew something crazy had just happened, and she felt very strange and sleepy, and she was aware that she really couldn't move much. She could hear her motorcycle man screaming, lifting her head just enough to see he was quite a ways up the road from her, but he was sitting up a few feet away from the motorcycle that was laying in the road. She heard many people screaming, and much chaos going on, but she wasn't quite sure what her condition was, as her body was in shock, and there were so many strange sensations she was feeling. She was afraid, and it all seemed like a strange dream. Suddenly, a lady came up to her and covered her up and began petting her head and talking to her. She screamed at everyone to get back and away from her. Lynette felt very tired, and she knew she was dying, and told the woman that she just wanted to go to sleep and she knew she was dying. But the woman insisted on keeping Lynette talking and awake, and seemed to know exactly what to say to make Lynette fight off the feeling of just letting go. There was so much chaos around Lynette, especially when the EMTs arrived. One of the men asked her if she knew her name, the date, where she lived, and was there anyone they could contact. Lynette asked the man what time it was and he told her it was 7:43 pm. Lynette, being amazingly coherent, told the man,"It's Wednessday night and you will have to call the church because that is where my mom is". She proceded to give the man her mom's name, the church phone number, and now knowing what the time was, explained to the man that they just got done with the song service and opening prayer. At this point, the EMTs were beginning to cut off her clothes and prepare her for transport, which brought the sensation of very bad pain that she hadn't felt before that point. Still not knowing the extent of her injuries, and being jolted with surges of unimaginable pain,Lynette began to fall in and out of conscientiousness. She realized at one point, that they were not loading her into an ambulance, but onto a helicopter. When she got to the trauma center, she heard her mother's voice, which gave her some comfort. She was talking with the doctors and Lynette overheard them saying, "we can't save the leg", and then she blacked out as they injected her with anesthesia for the long surgeries ahead. When she awoke a week later, she saw her mother in a chair reading, looking like she hadn't slept in a week, because she hadn't. She then asked her mother, "IS my leg gone?" her mother replied, "Yes, but you are alive". Lynette began to cry and said," Everyone will think I am a freak", her mother replied," No they won't, and anyone who does, isn't worth knowing. People will love you for who you are". At this point Lynette's pain was quite evident, and she couldn't move much. She then found out the extent of what this Drunk Driver had done to her. She had what was left of her leg being held up by a sling type thing, there was a screw going through her knee with a horseshoe shaped metal bar hooked to it. At the rounded end of the bar, there was a rope tied to it, that extended to the foot of the bed, where it wrapped once around a bar that went across the bed, and at the end of the rope, was a series of sand bags hanging there pulling the rope to keep her knee from collapsing into the remaining part of her thigh, because there was two inches of her femer bone that was missing, lost at the crash site, and they couldn't finish the leg due to all the other injuries and the trauma of the many hours of surgery. They didn't want to risk it as her life was hanging on the balance. The other injuries were very severe as well. She endured a pelvic that had literally broke in half, fractured in three places. They had to drill four screws in each hip and then attach a contraption called a vice, that basically was adjusted to push her pelvic together to allow the bones to heal the way they were. Her pelvis was not set back straight, but that was all that they could do. She also had her left arm broken very close to the shoulder, so they had to drill 4 screws through her bone that held a plate on the bone so it could heal. She also had her left hand crushed into millions of little pieces, that they very carefully attempted to put back in place with metal pins stratigically placed, in hopes that it would heal, but they stated that she would most likely never use the hand again. Somehow, by the Grace of God, Lynette survived this horrible crash. But the crash was only the beginning of Lynette's tortured nightmare. Lynette was a strong willed person, and had her mom there for moral support and love. Lynette spent 3 months in the hospital to recover enough to go home, years of therapy, treatments, surgeries, procedures, but Lynette will never fully recover from this crash. But Lynette spent her life fighting hard to do the best she could to be as normal and strong as possible. She even had a son with her motorcycle man one year after the crash. Motorcycle man was not ready to be a dad though, and he was a cheater, so Lynette kicked him to the curb and focused on healing, and being the best mom she could. But still there are many more tragic events to come in Lynette's life. First she met a man when her son was 9 months old. He loved her son and they had a lot of fun together. But tragically, he turned out to be a terrible alcoholic, and an abuser. He almost killed Lynette one day, and bruised her up many others. Lynette was scared and stuck, like so many other abused women, in a bad relationship. It took her 5 years to finally escape his grip. She moved into a beautiful house that was her mom's dream house, with her mom, sister, and her son. Then one day, she met another man. A wonderful, kind, non abusive man, and Lynette fell in love. She got married to him in 1994. He had a daughter that had been kidnapped by the mother, and Lynette helped him find her and get custody of her. They were such a wonderful little family, and it looked like Lynette was finally going to live happily ever after. People even thought that thier kids were truly blood related brother and sister as they looked so much alike. They were a picture perfect family. He got a great job through Lynette's family connections in the movie industry, post production, and all looked hopefull. Sure Lynette still struggled constantly with pain, post traumatic stress issues, emergency room visits, and many things that were a direct result of the crash. But she was truly happy for the first time in her life. She found her Prince Charming. Several years into the marriage, however, things got a bit rough. They were having finanacial problems, and they needed to move back in to Lynette's mom's house But by this time, Lynette's older sister, who had gotten a divorce, and her two kids were living there, and so was Lynette's younger sister and her boyfriend. So Lynette and her family had to sleep on mattress' on the livingroom floor, which had to be put away every morning. But they were ok for the most part. There were arguements,of course, with so many families in the same house. But truth be known thier mother loved them all being there. Then more tragedy. Lynette's husband began having episodes of panic attacks and he would tell Lynette he thought they should divorce, he complained about his job, just completely out of character for him; it was breaking Lynette's heart, but she was going to fight to help him and keep the marriage. He would have these episodes and then be totally back to normal again, so she wasn't going to give up on him. They went to church, got him help, and talked and prayed. It was hard, but there was much more good there than bad. Then one day, another horrible tragedy. Lynette took her mom to a very important doctor's appointment, because her belly was filling up with liquids, and they wanted to do a test, removing some of it from her belly and test it for what they feared it was. Lynette and her mom waited for hours in the hospital room, and when the doctor came back in, thier worst fear became real...CANCER. Lynette and her mom began to cry, and then, in her mom's strong nature, sat up and said," OK DOC, WHAT DO WE DO ABOUT IT?" The doctor informed them that it was a very aggressive cancer but they were going to do everything modern medicine could offer. So Lynette took her mom to many doctor's appointments, chemotherapy treatments, they did a histerectomy on her, all the while Lynette did research on natural ways of fighting it, and she got her many things. Then, in 2000 they got the news they were praying daily for, and working so hard for...REMISSION!! That was such great news for Lynette and the whole family, however, during all that time, things were getting worse for Lynette and her husband. He had begun to drink and do drugs and Lynette didn't like these things around the kids. Talk about divorce was back on the table and with everything going on with her mom, Lynette was losing her strength to fight to keep the marriage going. On top of all that, she was being pulled aside by family members and her mom's best friend, being told that she needed to move out because she was "The Strong One", and her sisters couldn't make it out there on thier own. they were telling her that there was just too much stress with so many people in the house for her mom, and that she was the one who was going to have to be strong and move out, for her mom's health, they said. Also, Lynette's step daughter was noticing her dad's behavior, and couldn't handle the stress herself, and she wanted to leave and move back in with her mother. Lynette was at a breaking point. After all she had been through, and her mother getting cancer and helping her fight it off, her family arguing all the time, her daughter leaving, and her marriage falling apart, the rope was on it's last strand. Then her husband made the situation even worse by beginning a new habit; one that Lynette just could not deal with. He began drinking and driving on his way home from work, a 45 minute drive, knowing, but not seeming to care, that that was something that she hated the most. After all, a drunk driver had taken away so much from her. Feeling like her whole life was falling apart and she couldn't take anymore, Lynette made the biggest mistake of her whole life. She packed up a few of her things, bought a bus ticket to Texas, and moved in with some guy she met on the internet, that she thought was a decent guy, honest, true, and NOT her husband who was breaking her heart during the worst time in her life. Lynette had a major breakdown and was not thinking in her right mind. She still was very much in love with her husband too. But she felt she had to get away from everyone and everything, and since her mom had beat the cancer, and everyone wanted her to move out, she lost her mind and moved WAY out. Here comes another tragedy...oh boy. So Lynette figures in her crazy state of mind, that the damage was already done. She was there, and she was going to try to make this work. But after only a short time, this man begins to control her every move, and forcing her to get a job, even though she was disabled from the crash, and soon after, abusing her. Now Lynette is only 5' tall, a little girl, and is disabled as well, which puts her at a great disadvantage to stand up for herself to this big, 350lb ex high school football player with an explosive temper. Sadly,Lynette was at her weakest point mentally and physically, that she had ever been before. She was embarrassed to admit to her family that she had made this huge mistake, and was afraid to say anything wrong, or act unhappy to this man, who snapped on the drop of a dime. So Lynette lived in a state of full submission. Then, the worst tragedy ever happened. Lynette's mom's cancer came back, and it came back fast and hard. Lynette talked to her mom almost every day, and her mom told her to stay there in Texas. she said she was very proud of her for getting a great job and working so hard. Lynette couldn't tell her mom that she was actually being abused and completely under this man's control. So Lynette stayed and made her mom believe everything was so great. She didn't want her mom to stress as the cancer was terminal at that point, and she had accepted her fate and was happy she was going to be with Jesus soon.She wanted to come home so bad, but felt it was too late. Her family was mad at her, her mom wanted her to stay because she thought she was happy and doing great. Lynette had resigned her fate. In February of 2002, Lynette's mom finally went home to Jesus and was no longer in pain. This was the worst pain Lynette had ever felt in her life. She still cries often about her mom. She was the one person in her life that was like her rock; unconditionally loving her. Lynette knew she had made the worst mistake of her life when she left her mother and family. But she was stuck. As the years went by, Lynette felt more and more trapped. Her health was failing her, her financials were a mess, as he forced her to get him loans and pawn her things. He was a terrible alcoholic too, and addicted to women. He too almost killed Lynette a few times, but by this point, Lynette felt like maybe she deserved it all. Maybe all these bad things that happened in her life was because she was a bad person, or just not worth anything good. Everything she tried to do failed. Every time she loved her heart was broken. Maybe she deserved it all for some reason, she just didn't know why. She finally came clean to her younger sister and told her about all the abuse and about how scared she was, and that she wanted to get home. She just didn't know how she could ever do it because she had no money to make such a move, and she was afraid that if she left him, he would come find her and kill her. But her and her sister kept trying to make plans, trying to hide money, but he would always find it. Even though it was her money because  she was working and he wasn't. After two years of trying to work out a plan that would never work because he always got what he wanted, she ended up meeting a man who would change her life and make her believe in love again. Make her believe she was WORTH being loved. He knew her situation with this man, and it was very hard for him to not be able to do anything about it. He doesn't realize it maybe, but his love gave her the strength to figure out a plan to at least get away from that man, and then go from there to find her way home. So they devised a plan. First part, even though she knew it was very dangerous and it could cost her her life, she had to leave him and go somewhere he hopefully couldn't find her. She rented a storage and began slowly trying to get her things in it; the important things that were from her family and her mom. She unfortunately could not get everything because he caught on and there was a big scene and even the police were called. But he was friends with all the police, so that didn't help. She just had to leave. Even his own sister was worried and telling  her to get out before he kills her. So she left and went to a friend that worked with her's house that he didn't know. She let her stay there for a couple months while Lynette and her hero prepared to get far away. But this horrible abusive man began to stalk her, even got a job where she worked, so plans had to change and go faster. So they thought of a way to go fairly quickly. She found out there was a place in Albuquerque, New Mexico that she could transfer from work to at the same pay rate, so she put in the transfer, and that was the first part of the plan. Her hero and his mom went and got them a little travel trailer so they could live in it until they got on thier feet. When the transfer came through, they just took off, saying goodbye to his mom and brother, and the friends they had there. But by this time, Lynette was getting very weak from all she had been through. Even though that was the case, she was determined to go; she was not going to die in that place. So Lynette went to Albuquerque and she felt safe for the first time in years, even though in the back of her mind she was worried he would hunt her down and kill her. She worked very hard at her call center job, but began to get ill often, and due to her injuries from the crash many years earlier, she was having a very hard time moving at all. She eventually was deemed totally disabled and told not to work anymore. She was told she should have never started working in the first place. Meanwhile,her hero she calls her soul mate, was having a terrible time finding work, and by trade, was a Journeyman Electrician in the State of California, which is HOME to Lynette. But his license expired before they could get to California. Once again Lynette is stuck. He got a job with a satellite company installing satellites, and they moved about 40 miles west of Albuquerque into a little forgotten rural modular home community onto an acre of land and in a nice little home. Lynette was home a lot by herself and very ill and in pain, and lonely. She got a bunch of wonderful American Bullys to keep her company and to love. He lives in the trailer and is so kind to her. One day, he got injured at work and his boss told him not to report it unless he couldn't work at all or it would cause problems for him, so he didn't, but he didn't know how serious it was at the time. Then a short time after that, they forced him to work in terrible weather conditions and he ended up getting seriously hurt. Anyways, that is a long story, but he ended up not working for them anymore and is in the middle of legal battles. So then he got a job as a baker, which he did in highschool for years, and got promoted to shift leader in only 4 months. But in New Mexico it is low pay plus he has terrible insurance so he cannot even see a doctor. But him and Lynette are wonderful together and he truly loves her. They have now been together for almost 5 years with no more relationship problems for Lynette. But Lynette still has a broken heart because she misses her family and California. She has been very sick and even hospitalized a few times in New Mexico, and can hardly do anything physically anymore, as her injuries from the drunk driving crash have finally taken too much of a toll on her body. She is almost 46 now and is struggling so hard with debt, barely any income, and aches to be close to her family, back in Southern California. She is not getting any younger, and the way things look, she may never make it home. She never got any compensation from the dui crash because the drunk driver had nothing and motorcycle man convinced her that she would be hurting his mother if she sued her insurance company, so Lynette was dupped. The drunk driver had 3 drunk driving convictions prior to crashing into Lynette, and Lynette should have been compensated by the State of California at minimum. But back in the 1980's there were not very many laws to help her. With the damage Lynette had, she should have gotten millions of dollars and never had to worry again. But that is not how this crime paid out. Instead, Lynette has had a tragic life, full of abuse, pain, loss, and heartbreak, not to mention debt and poverty. Lynette just wants to pay off all her debts, including the house (manufactured) she is in now, have a nice house with land and a place for her dogs to run, in Southern California close to her family, a car to get around in, bills paid and money in the bank to be able to do things, go to dinner if she wants, or fishing, or to her doctor appointments, she just wants to finally have a nice life without all the worries of bills, in a nice place with trees, water, and family. But alas, Lynette is a forgotten one. Someone who is made to feel she isn't worth having good things. So, since the system has failed her. Her relationships have failed her except the one she has now, and her body is failing her. I thought maybe society can make her dreams come true. Lynette should have had a life at the very least without having to worry about money after she was mangled and almost killed by a 3rd time prior Drunk Driving Offender. She has spent almost 27 years since then in torturous pain, pain that most of us would want to die over, plus she has been abused and heartbroken over and over. Let's all pitch in and help Lynette spend the rest of her life close to her family, in a beautiful home where she has plenty of room for her animals, and let's help her NEVER have to worry about bills or money again. She deserves to spend the rest of her life compensated for her injuries, pain, and suffering!! PLEASE DO THE RIGHT THING!! AND AS FOR THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA FORGET THE STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS ON THIS ONE> BRING LYNETTE HOME AND GIVE HER THE MILLIONS SHE DESERVES FROM THIS UNCOMPENSATED CRIME...PITCH IN!! DONATE TODAY!! THANK YOU!! GOD BLESS YOU!!