First of all, my name is Gayan Athapatthu. I'm from Sri Lanka (ethnicity: Sinhalese), living in New Zealand. My story is related to education, also love.
so I'm studying mechanical engineering at the University of Waikato. I met my girlfriend (jasmine) there.she was studying business and HR management. she was from Papua New Guinea but shes mix, her father is from Sri lanka. his ethnicity is Tamil. I'm not a racist person. I love every colour and every race. the reason why I mentioned the ethnicities because it's important to my story.
so jasmine was an international student, her parents couldn't pay for B semester in 2018, so she was forced to leave. she left New Zealand on the 1st of August. by that time jasmine and I had been together for about 3 months.
back story: there was a civil war in Sri Lanka between Tamil people and Sinhalese for over 30 years and there's still tension in some areas. (this is why I mentioned the ethnicities).
jasmines father was against our relationship because i'm Sinhalese. but we didn't care. there were times he took jasmines phone away to cut down communication, because, in a long distance relationship, the most important thing is communication and hope. we were so in love we didn't care, I waited days and days to hear something from her. and she always found a way. she did chores to get a few kinas (Papua new guinea currency) from her parents so she can get a top up and use her sisters' phone to talk to me secretly.
we did not care about the war or anything. we respected each other's cultures and loved each other for bits.
sometime in December 2018, her father took her sisters phone and threatened he would not send her back to the school of she helps jasmine to talk to me. there was no communication for 4 weeks. not a single word. I was so depressed. I wrote on to her every single hour as I was talking to her. tried calling her other sisters, her mom, and even her father. nothing worked. but I didn't give up. one day when I called jasmines mother, she answered, she said her father doesn't want us to be together. I told her everything I felt. she told me to write that and send it as a message so she can show it to jasmines father. I did that.
after a day, I got a call from her father. he told me he had to go against it because of a few reasons. one being family pressure from his family in Sri Lanka. he told me to give him two weeks and he will get back to me
after two weeks, I got a message from him asking me to call him at 11 pm. I called, jasmine answered the phone, this is the first time hearing from her after 6 weeks no communication what so ever. we both cried on the phone. she told me her father is okay with us now. I couldn't believe it but I was just so happy to hear her voice.
the reason why he took two weeks to get back to me was, he wanted to tell his mother in Sri Lanka on her birthday about this Sinhalese-Tamil relationship and ask if they are okay with it. jasmines grandmother has told him she's fine as long as we love and treat each other tight.
everything was fine, and we were talking almost every day. her fathers boss is supposed to pay for her studies so she can come back here and study this B semester (8th of July 2019). yes, we have been away for almost a year... we were both counting don days and looking forward to it.
recently someone from her church mentioned to her parents that she should get involved in religious activities. before going to uni. her family is forcing her to do it. but she really doesn't wanna do it. she wants to come back and finish what she started, and graduate. she is a very bright student, her friends always came up to her and ask questions and help them with their assignments. one day she wants to have her own business. she was trying to apply for scholarships but there aren't many opportunities in PNG. also, there's not enough time as semester B starts in 3 months.
I'm setting this up because I really do love her, I have been waiting for about a year for her return. its been very hard for both of us, financially and emotionally. I really wanna help her to succeed. because she's a very determined and hardworking person who needs some support to get going and at the moment she's not getting it and very depressed... I hate to see her that way.
her course cost $28,525, per year. but I'm setting up a goal of $15,000 so she can come here for at least one semester and we will figure out something from there.
so please help her to come back and continue her education. I believe everyone has the right to education. and also help us to reunite...
it will mean the world to us if you can help us because right now we don't have any other support. we are putting maximum effort to see if this will work so she can finish her degree and reunite with me.
thank you so much