Hi, I'm Xinyi, and I'm trying to raise enough money to get a place of my own.
I'm almost 29, just graduated and actively job-hunting, and I've been living in an abusive home for a while-- my father has always had a vicious temper and is prone to verbal and physical abuse when angry.
When I was in fifth grade, I remember getting slammed up against a wall and half-choked because I tried to explain a B- on a test with "come on, it's only a B, everyone else in the class got a B". When I was in high school, he bent a full-sized stick umbrella (with a metal central rod) over my hand. In university, we disagreed about my choice of boyfriend, and he broke the plastic top of a plastic folding stool over my foot (thankfully, he didn't break any bones). I have memories of slapping, punching, kicking, cheek-gouging, hair-pulling, nose/ear pulling... the whole nine yards.
I can't count the number of times he's destroyed my writing or my books-- he violently disapproves of my interest in science fiction and fantasy, and he frequently threatens to "smash" my laptop or phone (his words).
Yesterday, he was "disciplining" my brother and started beating my brother, using ten rattan canes at once.
I called the police. He wasn't arrested, but he was given a caution. He knows it was me who called them, and told me "thanks for calling the police. You know there was a police car down there? You wanted to make a scene, right?"
Since then, he and my mother have been very passive aggressive/angry at me for doing this, calling me ungrateful and selfish. This morning, he told me "I can't smash you, but I can smash your things. I can smash that computer, I can rip up your clothes."
I don't feel safe in that house, and I am going to get out. My aunt has offered to let me escape to her place first while I job-hunt, but I want to get up on my own feet and get my own space, and need a bit of a helping hand.
I've been looking at a few places, and average rent of a furnished place is about $1000 for a month, including all utilities (security deposit is one month's rent). I'd be hoping to get the first month's rent plus some for expenses and moving (I'm a single girl and moving things in bulk is going to take a long time... the longer I take, the higher the risk that it will be destroyed.)
Security deposit: 1000
Item-replacement money: 600
Total amount: 3000 (Singapore dollars)
Thank you all so much for your help and generosity.
EDIT: Holy smokes, this blew up. Thanks so much to everyone who's contributed so far! Anything beyond the above-mentioned amount will go towards rent and therapy (one session costs about $100-200 in my experience) as I continue to job-hunt and work towards getting myself on my feet.
Thank you all so much again! My heart really is too full for words...