Prior to me meeting my ex-partner in 2015, she already had 2 children from 2 different men. She told me that the second farther and herself was separated, which I learned was a lie at a later stage. I also learned that she left the first father for the second farther. We hit it off very well and things was really good between us. In 2016, my eldest was born. Soon after that the lies started, other men etc. I loved her so we tried to make it work and end 2017 my youngest was born. The lies and cheating did not stop and in the beginning of 2019 my ex-partner and mother to my children abandoned us, leaving my 2 infant children with me. She moved in with her new boyfriend at the time, got married and gave birth to their child end of 2019.
Although I did not deny her any access to her children, my ex-partner did not make any effort to contact or see them for 3 and a half months. It is only after I approached court/social services to get primary care of my 2 infant children that she had a change of heart and she wanted primary care. Social services did their investigation and I warned them that when the first father got custody of their child, she made false allegations in an attempt to have the child remove from him, the second father did not want anything to do with his child, but did pay monthly maintenance. She then made false accusations against the grandparents, wanting to sue them for maintenance money too.
It was decided that the children should remain in my care at the end of 2019. My ex-partner was not happy with their decision and started making my life hell, making false allegations. Exactly what she did to the first farther, in an attempt to have my children removed from me. While social services were investigating these claims, my kids were placed in a place of safety for 5 months in the beginning 2020, pending the outcome. When the investigation was concluded, my children was returned to my primary care in August 2020 and the mother received visitation.
Knowing what she did with the first child’s father and me, I was concerned that since she did not get what she wanted, she will retaliate and I will have to relive the nightmare all over again. I asked social services what I could do to prevent the same from happening. They told me there was nothing I could do and that I had to deal with it. Not to worry that she will give up.
As you can imagine, the kids being returned to me, did not go off well with my ex-partner, not being able to get her way. Beginning 2021 she retaliated and demanded full custody of our children. Social services told her that that will never happen and then my hell started all over again, the lies, the false allegations. I was devastated, hurt and angry because I warned social services that she will do it again and in an emotional state blamed them for the repeat of events (it was wrong of me), my ex-partner accused them of being bias which lead to them stepping down
In May 2021, the day before my eldest birthday, my ex-partner approached a different social service organization with these lies and allegations. Social services are forced to investigate all allegations, but unlike before my kids were not taken to a place of safety, they were put in the mother’s care and I was given supervised visits (2 hours every second week) in June 2021, pending the outcome.
I was broken, I can’t even begin to describe how I felt. Not only was they put in the care of the mother, she was also the one to supervise the visits. You can imagine from my story thus far, how those visits went. That is if she did not cancel the visits on the same day it should have occurred without legitimate reasons.
Since I couldn’t afford a private lawyer, I got the assistance of a legal aid lawyer to help me. My ex-partner basically laughed in his face and continued to do as she pleased, getting away with just about everything. 1st December 2021 I was ready to give up and just walk away. At that stage it has been 6 months since the kids were taken away from me and was, I only been able to see them 5 times.
When I was at my lowest, someone cared enough to send someone else my way, which started a chain reaction which I landed me up at a private lawyer’s office specializing in children’s cases. That day, for the first time since this entire mess started, I was given explanations why things happened the way they did and more, for the first-time giving me clarity I never had before.
There was not enough time for this person, who came heaven send, to ensure my kids safe return, but certain processes were put into place to reach my goal. Because it’s an open case, I cannot give you much details about what is happening, except perhaps that I had my 6th supervised visit with my kids, without any hassle or fear, nor with my ex-partner present.
It was most probably the best 2 hours of my life, I had with my kids in 6 months. The wheels are slowly starting to turn. I do not have the money to pay all of this lawyers etc. fees, but I need this person by my side so my kids can come home and to prevent history from repeating itself.
Money raised will go towards paying all the legal and other necessary fees to bring my kids home to me.
This is my 1st Christmas away from my beloved kids and it is depressing, but thinking of them and all the fond memories help makes it bearable. Memories like days at the beach, riding their bikes in the park, feeding the ducks, especially going fishing with their grandparents, being able to hold the fish and then throwing them back brings a smile to my face
I will never stop fighting for them
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