Amoy is my oldest sister. She turned 80 on January 30, 2018.
For all of her working life, Amoy has been a helper of people. She has worn hats as a nurse, midwife, school teacher, massage therapist, yoga instructor. She was the sole caregiver for our then 90-year old mom when she broke her leg in 2007. Now Amoy is the one in need of help.
Up until December 2017, Amoy was living with our mom and our cousin in Charleston SC, but her health needs have compelled us to move her into assisted living.
Amoy has struggled with diabetes since 2001, and in more recent years, the increasing cognitive decline of dementia. In addition she is a compulsive eater - and that, plus forgetting when she had last eaten, and refusing to take her meds, was making her diabetes very difficult to control.
She also became reluctant to engage in any kind of activity. She spent most of her time sitting and staring into space and shunned social interaction, even with her beloved Unity Church.
Wanting to keep her at home as long as possible, we tried bringing in caregivers to help with medical and personal care, and various activities, but Amoy was unresponsive to their efforts.
After much research and visits to several Assisted Living facilities, we decided on Ashley Landing in North Charleston. We found that it had a good balance between costs and care provided. A plus is that the price is the same no matter what Level of Care is needed.
Even though Amoy is still in the settling-in phase, we feel that Ashley Landing is better for her than being at home. She participates in various group activities, several of which involve music – something that she has always loved. Although she sometimes has no memory of the activity afterwards, at least she can enjoy it in the moment.
She no longer has free access to a kitchen so her eating is more under control and her blood sugar levels overall are getting better.
Amoy’s monthly cost is $3468. This covers rent, meals, housekeeping, laundry and most important, personal assistance, medical supervision and activities. Personal items are out of pocket.
Thanks to her retirement savings and family funds, Amoy will be able to support herself for the first several months. However she’ll soon have to apply for Medicaid. Nationwide, the availability of “Medicaid beds” is very limited. Fortunately, Ashley Landing will allow Amoy to stay there on Medicaid after a year of private pay, but she would have to share a room, which we would rather avoid if possible.
Given the uncertainty over what might happen to Medicaid in the future, we want to extend the period of private pay to ensure that she can stay on at Ashley Landing in her own room, and delay reliance on government assistance as long as possible… and this is where we’d appreciate your help!
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Heartfelt thanks from Amoy’s family!
The first 2 photos are of Amoy with her family several years ago; the last one is of her enjoying carol singing at Ashley Landing last December.