Get out of debt :(

Early last year, I got out of a mentally and emotionally draining and abusive 10-year relationship. I had acquired loans for my ex for his kids' needs and for his properties which he needed to pay for. I tried to get in touch with him to help me settle the loans but to no avail. Even his family cannot be reached. I just want to be able to finish settling the loans so that I can start living for me and make up for the 10 years I lost. I want to be able to stand up again and not stress over my past and the effects it has left me. Thank you to all those who are willing to share whatever you can. I will forever be grateful.