In life we all have growth through the challenges we face, some suffer at the hands of others more so than deserved, I'm no I different, although I turn it around for the good and use the negatives as a reminder on what I don't want,I thank them and walk away with a smile on my face for the gift they given me. They then become the drive that pushes me forward as I walk and leave them behind.
WHO AM I? I am a very strong loving women, MOED ( courage through adversity) determination built into my DNA.
I am a beautiful woman who is against Violence & sexual abuse towards Children Women and Men. I am the Daughter of two loving parents, My mother who was Maori, Descendant of Te Atiawa Parihaka Taranaki New Zealand... My Great Grandfather on my mother's side was the Parihaka prophet 'Te Whiti o Rongomai' famous New Zealand Peacekeeper. My Father who is of Dutch descendant, was from Tilberg Holland. Dad is one very strong Man, one where you can be proud of for standing up for who he is and never budging from his standards and morals. Both my parents were like this and my strengths and high moral standards come from them and if it was not for them I would never have left the highly dysfunctional marriage eventually and I would not be the strong women I am today.
I am single, however, I once was in a violent marriage, 'sexual, physical and emotional' like many in New Zealand who suffer at the hands of a violent domestic partner each and every day, I was no different...This is a big problem in New Zealand for both male, female and the children who witness this. If children witness abuse of any kind then this becomes a part of their lives as a norm even if they don't like it at the time, they become the next link in the chain of abuse handed down through their family links of this negative behaviours.
“Never give up.” It’s probably one of the most cliché phrases you’ll hear as you’re building a career or re-shaping your life anew. But there’s a reason these sayings are clichés—you never know when success really does lie around the next corner.
I am the type of person who never gives up and I have dealt with a lot in my life from an early age, not a rough childhood within my family, but from family a friend who sexually interfered with me at the age of six and then to have it enforced as my fault by being told I was a naughty child, I was also placed in a home for naughty children in Foxton New Zealand. This was to be the start of a downhill spiral of a negative life surrounded by people who had drug, alcohol addictions, "not me" but I was addicted to being mistreated due to having my self-worth taken away from an early age.
Interfered with at the age of six by a family friend, raped at 15 and had a baby from the rape, adopted the baby boy out in an open adoption. Met a guy a few years later and thought he was the one until I fell pregnant and was dumped like a wet rag, I kept the wee baby girl I had, because parting with her was too much to bear way more than I had endured already.
Henry Ford said, “When everything seems to be going against you, remember that an airplane takes off against the wind, not with it” We don't develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity. Regardless of the cause, you must learn from the experience and you need to own it. You have to draw from it, so you can progress to the next phase of your journey. The bigger the adversity you have endured, the bigger the lesson and the bigger the opportunity for personal and professional growth.
I am on a mission to become a part of helping break this cycle of abuse, we must start somewhere to help stop this epidemic in New Zealand giving people who have experienced abuse of any kind have Flight within your Light for sound, solid, abundant and happy future all the while helping break the cycle of abuse for future generations to come.
We need to end the silence imposed by society upon the victims in order to make changes for our children's future free from violence, thereby breaking the chain for next generations to come.
Yes, you may have had a hard life, speak and live in your truths. Use them for the good and use them as your drive to get a positive motivated life, a real life without regrets.
I could go on about the neglect and abuse I have had to endure, but today I am grateful, oh so very grateful, why? because I have grown up and away from the negatives placed on me by the hands of others, I'm not responsible for anyone else wrongdoings and I often say I am glad I don't get why people do such things, because if I got it, then I would be no different from them, something I will never ever be. This is why I say I am grateful because they have given me the gift of learning to get to know the real me, I have grown and they remain in the same spot, isn't gratitude a wonderful gift?
Their abuse may want you to be silent, but I say get angry and shout it out loud for all to hear and never ever be silent about this epidemic that seems to be in the too hard basket for those to hear. I know I don't give a good god damm what anyone thinks of me and what they think I am, I know who I am and I have learnt to say, I am not what you say I am and it is none of my business what you think I am. I live my life my life my and I am happy with it.
I do not surround myself with negative people anymore, I would prefer to be on my own than have my positive energy sapped by negative people, why? Because these kinds of people prevent forward movement and they are a weight that holds and drag you back. I have been knocked back, time and time again and yet I say to myself, all the greats never gave up, they just get up and keep going.
No task offers an easy road, especially when you have been through what you have been through, bite the bullet and get up and live life anyway. Because success for a stronger you in your future is the gift that has been given and the blessing of this is you are in charge of re-shaping your life the way you want your life to be.
I have tried for the last few years to get support from all avenues in our community, Banks, Angel funding, loan sharks, selling art I paint, trying to find publishers for my books, and the lists goes on, way to many to mention. I know I have tried thousands and thousands of times in loads of different places, all blocked with judgements and negative comments, banks saying nope, sorry we cannot help you. So what do you do when you have a dream and goal with built in determination to never ever give up, to keep trucking on to find way to for fill your dreams? You become creative.
So what are my dreams? I have the opportunity to train with a great to become a speaker on the next level of what I already do, this makes the flame within me burn bright and I feel totally alive within my persona, I know this is one of the things I am placed on this earth to be.
My goal is to help combat abuse of all kinds. I intend to become the speaker helping people have "Flight within their Light" the third title of my books. Three steps up and out of abuse for once and for all, giving you back your "Flight within your Light" the one you were given from the moment of conception, and then human interference got in the way of giving you a clear path for your happy future.
I thank you for helping me combat, child abuse, domestic violence for both women and men.
Women are the nurtures and it is time we stepped up and educated our children, women need to teach our children how they should be treated, boys need to learn how to treat girls, fathers need to show this through the way they treat their wives. Mothers need to teach our girls the way they should be treated and once again the father need to teach our girls, by the ways and means of how he treats his wife and his children and how they should treat each other.. It is a simple equation.
Can you support this campaign to help combat abuse of all kinds, for a better future for our children future and thereby helping lesson abuse in our societies world wide.
I just want to say thank your for your support in helping me train to become and fast track my speaking career to help make change for all.