Fighting for Phallon

Fundraising campaign by Jasmine Burston
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This fundraiser is intended to help ( myself) a single mom who is going through a difficult time. I'm forced to defend myself due to a Child Custody litigation reopened by the other parent.

I call my story and situation...

"A Plea for Peace".

To become a mother was one of my biggest dreams. On March 5th, 2016, I birthed this beautiful baby girl named Phallon. She allowed me to join the motherhood club taken that she's my only child. For 6 years, I've been honored and was taken away with joy that I get be her mom. She's kind, she's gorgeous, she's extremely loving, she's smart and witty. She's essentially everything and more to me. I vowed to myself to always make sure she's safe, loved, and happy to the best of my abilities.

Unfortunately, the relationship between her parents came to an end when she was 6 months old. Therefore she has no memories of us being together; We found ourselves having to go to court to establish an agreement within the first year of her life. As a result, we have exercised joint physical / legal custody of my daughter with myself having primary residential custody.

Going through the court process, a first-time mother, was extremely difficult. My dream of motherhood was becoming a nightmare. The joy that I looked forward to all my life was overshadowed by a dark cloud . I realized I was in a war battle and tortured with the thought of losing my child. Even though there was no good cause, the documentation I received from his attorney and stories heard from others made me extremely frightened.

For someone who has never experienced a divorce or child custody case it may be difficult to understand how it affects you financially and emotionally:

1. It's mentally draining, causes severe anxiety, and depression. ( It extremely has effects on the child and their mental health.)

2. It's extremely expensive to obtain an attorney and pay all necessary legal fees. (Used as a form of intimidation or weapon)

3. The other party uses strategies to position themselves to win; Including, manipulating the child in various ways, avoiding to help financially to force the other parent to struggle, and has a continuous agenda to taint the other person image. ( as all these things will be how the court evaluates who should have custody)

Disclaimer: I'm very private about my life and I'm embarrassed to have to disclose person information to give others a better understanding. I'm not nor have I ever been on drugs or have a criminal record. There's absolutely no merit or reason the father should have full custody over myself.

I encourage fact checking through Maryland Judicary Case Search.


Now 6 1/2 years later....

Due to a disagreement on education/schooling and me standing up to the years of unknowingly being manipulated and gaslighted he decided to take court action.

In his court argument, he has requested for full custody and for my daughter to reside with him. Thereafter, he would like for me (the mother) to have visitation and no "tie breaker" status.

I have tried my best to avoid anything to do with court because of how traumatized I felt from the first case. Anyone who knows me personally can attest that I absolutely love my daughter. She's my everything and that's why I have to do my best to fight this case.

As I've shared my story with those close to me and heard other horror stories similar to my case....

There's a common question that I'm asked that has stood out.

Question: "What do you hope to get out of this situation?"

Quick Answer: Peace of mind

I could come up the an array of things and an entire wishlist for sure. But, if I could sum it up I would ask simply for "peace" to be the outcome. Not only for myself, but for my daughter as she's been greatly affected and will be impacted for life by her witnessing everything. It affects our everyday life and she doesn't deserve to have to think about this matter too.

Her father comes from a wealthy family and has the means to inflict these legal battles. To have" the means "-he's able to have less anxiety on the this matter and still be able to enjoy his life. They have continued with this tactic to strategically force me out of the picture since I've birthed her. It was essentially the exact reason I chose to leave the relationship to avoid that kind of abuse along with others. He knows that I do not have the same economic resources and is intentionally being difficult to increase his likelihood of winning the case. I've exhausted all funds and emergency savings trying to counter every move he makes. This is painful as I've worked hard to save my earnings (with no help, no inheritance, no trust fund, no "gifting")to be in a position to buy a home finally. Now, it's all gone and my credit has been effect. He was aware of these plans and its so disheartening to think he would go this far. It's as if I have to relive this entire situation all over again. Now this time my child is aware of what's going on and conflicted with believing it's her fault.

She witnesses how :

  • They will throw birthday parties for her and tell her that I'm not allowed to come. I'm treated like a second-hand parent to stroke his ego
  • They entice her with toys and any materialistic things in attempt to gain her loyalty.
  • They manipulate her to question the innate trust and respect she has for me.
  • They've even manipulated daycare workers, parents of friends, and schools to believing he has more rights or custody of Phallon. (Astonishingly, people are easily persuaded and believe they are telling the truth.)

Parent Alienation Syndrome

Sometimes I tell myself, "I wish I was making this up."

Enough is enough!

To be honest I'm mentally and financially exhausted. I want to be the best mom ever; But, some days I feel hopeless. I've tried to co-parent nicely, find reasoning outside of the court system, I've gone through mediation, and made every concession and sacrifice possible. Also, I've contacted all departments or organizations that may be able to assist and still I'm stuck on this hamster wheel.

As a last resort, I consulted with an attorney that I believe can fight this case properly. I have the first court hearing on August 2nd, 2022. In order for this lawyer to be assigned to my case they are asking for $5,000 upfront. Thereafter, I will be billed bi-weekly for anywhere from $500- $2,000. (I know it's nuts!)

My overall goal or wish is to reach $70,000-100,000.

Reasons why?

1. I would like for this case to be fought without limitations. I would like to not have to stress about bills, child care and pay off the current debt accumulated thus far. ( FYI: I have a budgeting plan and supporting documents that I can give if requested. Due to the sensitivity & evidence around this case I would request a NDA agreement be signed beforehand.)

2. There are also key things the attorney strongly advised me to accomplish. If the case goes to trial it's a MUST I get them completed. ( Cannot disclose online due to the sensitivity around this case) They are time sensitive-Trial could take place in the next 4-5 months.

3. I would like to be able to do small fun things for Phallon to brighten her spirit to distract her from this ugly battle.

4. "In memory of Jarrod Sharp"-I lost a good friend & neighbor of mine to suicide because he could't endure the constant negativity and disappointment that stems from these situations. I witnessed him go through the motions and it was hard to watch the emotional rollercoaster. It was a vivid reminder of what I had experienced. His story reminds me that even though he was so accomplished & seemed happy he couldn't bare the torment either. He loved his kids and they loved him immensely. So, I feel forever responsible to keep fighting to see better days on his behalf ( the kids) and others who suffer in Domestic cases.

See photos or click link if interested.>>>https://bit.ly/3zjMRdf

5. I plan to use any remaining funds to donate to a person(s) or an organization that help individuals/women who are facing similar situations. (Recommendations welcomed) I pledge to do so as I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. Especially, any non-privileged, hardworking woman or mother.


Needless to say.....

It's urgent that I'm strongly represented this time as I learned a hard lesson from the first time. I see how he's treated me this far and can no longer be naive to the fact it will get worse if he's granted full custody. I've had to admit to myself that there's no way I can come up with that kind of money in this short amount of time also.

I need everyone's help to confidently fight back this time! Even if you can't help with money. I would be so grateful for any character statements or comments that I can use if the case goes to trial or needed. Also, I welcome anyone to come to any of the hearings as moral support. I can give updates for the upcoming dates to those interested. I can be emailed to [email protected] or reached at (301)219-2900.

Thanks everyone!


Ways to donate:

CashApp:$JasmineBurston

Zelle: 3012192900

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  • Jasmine Burston

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