The problem, I have come to realize, is that many women become wholly dependent on the people around them. This is through no fault of their own. All too often, people are too willing to help a damsel in distress. After so long, a dependency forms. The people who were the woman's benefactor in times of distress or need become resentful that they are now responsible for this other human being.
Of course, this doesn't always lead to being chained to a motel radiator. But in too many situations, be there an inequity in drugs vs efforts to pay for them, or perhaps, the woman is told from go that she is expected to come up with her "fair share," whatever that may be. Lacking education, job skills, or an environment conducive to work, the victim-to-be wants to contribute. Perhaps, out of a desperation to pay for her food, upkeep, drugs, and protection, she is even willing to go out and let herself face untold abuse in the name of stoicism.
This is far from an equal trade, however. No amount of drugs, food, clothing, or shelter can replace the very core of an individual that makes us "human." Perhaps some of us look back at the girls and women who we used to know. As hard as we try, though. That version of ourselves is long gone. Often, she has jumped ship without even a farewell because that self we used to know, innocence, in some cases, could take no part in what was to come.
We need to promote independence for every adult and at-risk child. This means education, job training, mentor ships, DE-stigmatization of sex workers so they might find protection in the police.
There is so much ignorance. I learn more every day. Today, however, I fully believe that people need personal independence so that if someone says something slightly distasteful in exchange for goods, the response can easily be a hearty, "bugger off."