Has anyone ever told you that when you find "the one" that you'll just know?
I heard it, and I honestly never believed it. I mean, how is finding that special someone supposed to be different from meeting any other person out there? I'm not going to tell you a sappy love at first sight story. Trust me, when I met this skinny guy with a mohawk at the beach one summer, the last thing on my mind was "that's the man of my dreams right there!" What did happen was something a bit more realistic, with a bit of a freaky beginning.
August of 2008
I was FED UP with jerks, losers and users. I had only been out of a bad relationship for around 4 months, and I was trying to get this one guy I really liked to notice me. He had been making it clear he wanted me to change 95% of the things about myself in order for him to call me his girlfriend. I was sick of it and wanted answers. So I did what silly 18 year old girls do when they want answers to life, I went to see our local psychic.
She read my plams and said I already knew the love of my life, it was someone I wouldn't expect and we'd be dating within 6 months.
My first thought was, "OMG I shouldn't give up on Steve!" -I obviously chose to ignore the someone-you-wouldn't-expect part- so I continuted on with trying to make who I thought could be the one, be the one.
End of September/Beginning of October 2008
My friend Spencer knew I was even more fed up than I was a month or 2 ago and advised me to stop trying to make Steve like me as much as I liked him. I was reluctant. Gina said we'd start dating soon!! Plus, he'd say to me that he liked me, but wouldn't tell his friends. In my young mind, I thought this was some kind of progress. hah! Anyway, one night he dragged my butt to one of Allyn's parties just a few blocks away from our college. I remembered meeting Allyn at the beach over the summer - you know, the mohawk man I told you about - and we chit chatted for a while about good times at the beach playing volleyball and having fun. After a little while, he started to tell me about his girl problems. The girl he liked would tell him they were together, but wouldn't tell anyone else they were. She would tell other people that they were just good friends. Hmm...sound familiar? I first told him about my friend Amber who was having guy problems herself and mentioned they'd make a cute couple. Within an hour, I regretted telling him about her. This guy was a lot cooler than I originally thought!
The main reason Allyn and his roommates were having this party was to celebrate Canadian Thanksgiving (no one there was Canadian, they just wanted a reason to drink!). So we all sat down to eat. A few people started smushing food in each others faces, so I decided to join the fun and throw some mashed potatoes at my friend Grant. Grant did nothing, but to my surprise Allyn retalliated for him! He and I were in a full flegged food fight for about 5 minutes. After wiping the food off my face and clothes and helping him get the peas out of his mohawk, we started to talk some more. A few people joined us and one by one people started leaving. Soon it was just Allyn and I. One of the first things I learned about him is that he talks A LOT. It was around 4 in the morning, I had been drinking and I was really tired. I layed down on his bed, thinking I'd wait for him to be done talking then say I had to go because it was getting late.
He didn't stop.
I passed out.
In the morning, I woke up and found him laying on the complete opposite side of his bed. I was completely embarrassed I just fell asleep while he was talking, but at the same time very impressed he just totally left me alone! What a gentleman! I definitely wasn't used to guys being like that.
After that night we hung out a lot. Soon, we forgot about the people who liked us but didn't want to date us. We realized we liked each other a lot more than we liked our previous 'likes.'
When Allyn asked me out, he gave me a dozen roses and asked me to be his girlfriend. I gladly said yes!
Within a few weeks, I knew that I would never be able to find someone that would make me as happy as Allyn makes me. The best part about that? 3 and a half years later I still feel the same way. So in the end, Gina the Psychic was right. I already knew the love of my life, it was someone I would have never guessed and we got together just a few months after I had seen her!
Allyn and I didn't fall in love after staring at each other through a crowed room, we didn't fall head over heads when we accidentally bumped into each other on a busy street and we didn't lock eyes and suddenly just know that we would get married someday. He captured my heart with his charm, his smile and his kindness.
Here we are, 3 and a half years later and madly, deeply in love with one another. We now have amazing little boys. Corvin was born on September 10th, 2010 and Zander was born on October 29th, 2011. I'm a stay at home mom and Allyn works in sales anywhere from 50 to 70 hours a week. We know we're only going to get married once, so we want to make the day as special as possible. So far we've spent what we can on our day. Once we get our taxes back, it's all going to the wedding. After we get that money and we spend what we can of Allyn's wages on things we need, we're still coming up a bit short.
If you can, we would love for a little help! Please donate to our wedding to make our day just a little more special. It would mean the world to us!! Even if it's just a dollar, that brings us one dollar closer to completion!
Thanks so much!
Taber, Allyn, Corvin and Zander :)