Please help these two amazing women to be able to have what most of us take for granted: To live in the same country as the one you love.
Meet our friend Jodie who went on a family holiday, and instead of finding a cheap souvenir she found the love of her life.
Jodie is 33 years old and is a kind and thoughtful person who loves to help others. As a lesbian she believes that we all have the right to marry the one we love and start a family if we so wish, but she had never found anyone that she wanted to do that with until now. Jodie has been a close friend of ours for over 15 years and we have never seen her so in love and so sure of what she wants. After meeting Devrim there was an instant connection that they both could not ignore. When Jodie returned to the UK they continued their relationship over Whatsapp and Skype for hours every day. They both fell more in love and after what felt like an eternity of Jodie travelling backwards and forwards to Turkey, Devrim romantically popped the question to which a delighted Jodie accepted.
Since then Jodie has continued to travel out at every opportunity when work allows, in order for them to steal a few days or a week together. But there are usually long periods of time in-between that they both find increasingly more difficult, having to rely on video calling and messaging as the only contact they can have. The other day Jodie told us “the last two days together we both spend in tears as it is just so painful leaving, for me and her”.
Devrim is not safe to be who she is, and love who she wants to love openly in her country, but she has never believed in hiding who she is and announced her sexuality to her family over 20 years ago when she was only 14 years old. Since then she has experienced all sorts of abuse and discrimination, including being turned down for jobs because of her sexuality. There is no legal protection against discrimination on the basis of sexuality. Devrim has continually asked Jodie to move to Turkey so that they can be together now, but we are all concerned about our friend’s safety in a country where the religion and culture will not accept them, as this means they will have to sacrifice so much, including the right to marry each other and have children together. Jodie is so grateful and proud to be British and live in a country that promotes and accepts equality and diversity. She does not want to give that up for a life where she will be stared at, shouted at and discriminated against because of who she loves.
Jodie has worked hard all her life, but the rising cost of living in
London to be close to her job as a tutor in a college means that every
month she is just making ends meet. When she takes on overtime or is able to save, of course it goes on flights to see her fiancé.
Devrim is working 11 hours a day as a trained masseuse, 7 days a week
trying to save money for the visa they need to be together. But due to
the Turkish economy being affected by world politics, the tourism trade
is suffering greatly and she is earning at most a few pounds a day and
very often nothing.
Due to the cost of visa fees increasing this month and their current situation, their lives are on hold until they can live together and plan their future together.
Please help us help them by reaching this target. The amount we would need to raise is £3000. This would just cover the visa application costs. The first visa alone (Fiancé visa) is £1195.00 and there are many extra requirements within the application such as translating documents and the A1 English test which Devrim is studying hard for every night. The money raised will contribute to paying to bring Devrim and Jodie together and ensure they can live together in the UK, where they can legally get married to each other and start their future as a family.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, any donation big or small would be hugely appreciated. Please help us unite this hard-working, lovely couple.
A life without love is no life at all
(The majority of this text was written by Jodie's closest friends, with help from her colleagues)