In December 2015, we thought we had everything. A new baby had arrived, we were planning a wedding to get my younger brother married, an extended family around who we thought we could rely on to be there for us the way we had been there for them.
That it was all to changed drastically in January 2016 was something so wholly unexpected, it almost destroyed us and our little family.
A bit of history then. I have a good stable job, and my wife has started working from home on a small business which is starting out. We married 5 years ago and have lived with my mother and 2 younger brothers, caring for the family home which has sheltered our siblings who have now married and moved on in their lives. We have never looked to anyone for help, but have helped others unconditionally with our time and emotions, sparing no cost financially, causing us to remain at a standpoint thinking that they would help us make the steps that I had tried all my adult life to help them make.
A happy moment came when my younger brother was ready to marry and we set about planning. In my usual generous manner, when he came to me to ask for help with the cost of the wedding, I offered him a gift of £5000 and he assured me this would cover it all.
In reality we used my salary and anything my wife made to top up the costs as well as countless hours preparing decorations and gifts. My wife also created and designed all the outfits and had them made at our cost (which was planned to be repaid by the families).
This was the start of the spiral into our current nightmare. I won't go into the details though please ask and I can send this to you, but in summary, we spent around £16000 in all, and recouped around £7000 in people paying us back, and found ourselves homeless in the process, with a mountain of debt (we already had existing ones from paying for our own wedding), and 3 children including a baby.
Local government could not help us due to my salary (even though it was barely meeting our monthly commitments) and we now find ourselves living in a basement paying £200 a month in one room for all 5 of us.
I am very proud and have achieved all my goals thus far in life through determination and pursuing any option, and through very good friends have hung on so far. I applied to leave my role which I worked hard to attain for a lesser role which paid more just to get the extra income but the Brexit referendum caused them to withdraw the offer. I went to the local council to ask for help in attaining a deposit to purchase a home, as I had an offer of a mortgage based on my income alone, along with my wife handling the commitments for food and costs with her small takings in the business where possible.
Now I find myself looking at this option, and appealing to the world to help me, for the universe to give back. I have always tried to be good, helping the homeless with food or talking to them and then emptying what I have in my pockets for them, releasing trapped pigeons, picking up wounded birds. I have never asked for any recognition for just doing good, putting a drunk on the train home, or giving a lift to a stranger at 2am in the night asking for directions, lighting a guys cigarette even...but I ask now, for some help from strangers as family means nothing to the people I find myself being blood related with.
With your donation, i want to raise a deposit for a small inexpensive house far away from everyone who were happy to be taking from me when the times were good, and me putting them ahead of my kids when the times were happy but giving nothing back or only conveniently showing as if they were helping when the times got bad.
If it is convenient to help, it's not really helping, its just doing something not out of your way, so I thank all who donate and fund us on this worthy cause, as it is costing you something; Your time to read this, and your money that you could have used elsewhere. Please know that it goes somewhere worthwhile.
I want to raise a deposit for a house, which we will be happy to struggle to pay for and work for, and strive to make as homely as possible. This will complete my life goals so I thank you and promise to repay in whatever way I can and pass it forward as I have always tried to.
Specifically, I plan to put down the £22000 deposit and use the extra £8000 for stamp duty and additional fees and costs that arise from purchasing a house costing around £200000.
Please help us get these wonderful kids the home and pet they deserve, and I promise to update everyone with all the joyous pictures that I want to give them.