Jul 02, 2019 at 07:03 am

911 Police had to take child to hospital for suicide threats - Again.

Update posted by Domestic Violence Victim Identity Protected

This morning my child found out he was being sent to his father for the summer visit and he went into crisis mode.

My parents and I had to call 911 for him.

My child told the Police Officer that when he found out about having to see his father, he sent a message to his friend, saying "This is going to be the last you will hear of me."

My child had said goodbye to his best friend.

He had decided this was it, he was going to kill himself instead of having to be forced to stay with his father.

It is tearing me apart to see how much his father's abusive behaviour has affected him. He is so afraid of him and so desperate to be away from him that he is going to kill himself.

My mother updated my child's father that he and his siblings were not going to be able to leave for the summer visit yet because my child was on the way to the hospital with Police and I was told to follow them. My mother's message was deliberately clear that I was not intentionally denying parenting time - she was specific to state that the children could not leave YET because one child was on his way to the hospital with Police.

In response to this message, the child's father showed ZERO concern for the child, as per usual, and went on the attack against me, as per usual. He did not want to know any details as to what had happened to our child, and shortly afterwards, my mother received a threatening letter from his attorney, accusing me of "interfering with parenting time" and accusing me of doing things on purpose to prevent the father from "being the loving father that he is". These are some of the things stated in that threatening letter.

It was so disturbing to see that the father's first reaction to the news that his child is being taken to hospital by Police is a threat to me, that I am "preventing him from being the loving father that he is". Why does he have to go into automatic defence mode about how "loving" he is? What does that have to do with the news that his child is being taken to the hospital?

That is rhetorical question, by the way. The answer is clear that the father knows exactly what is going on and knows that his child is speaking up about wanting to kill himself because of his father's abuse, and he doesn't realize how transparent he is being when his first reaction to automatically defend himself against what he knows the child's issues are by preaching about what a loving father he is. It is disturbing to read how he accuses me of interfering with his parenting time as his son is on his way to the hospital. It is so clear that he is AFRAID for his son to go to a hospital because he knows what his son will be telling the doctors about why he is in crisis.

I don't know if I have posted this part of the history somewhere else in this campaign event, but this is what the father does anytime he can find a way to try to have me sanctioned for "interfering with parenting time". You see, this would be an offence against the court order, and "custodial interference" is also something that parents can go to jail for. Therefore, the father has been constantly throwing around those "Buzz Words" ever since the divorce papers were stamped, that I am "interfering with his parenting time". In 2014, on Feb 7, there was a visit scheduled, but there was a dangerous blizzard. The father kept insisting that I drive the children to the visit anyway. I posted 7 weather warnings throughout the day as he kept threatening me throughout the day to get on the road and to stop lying about the weather just to "prevent his parenting time." My domestic violence advocate advised that I ask Police for help since he was threatening me and refusing to accept that there was a blizzard. When Police called him to advise him of the dangerous weather conditions and that Police were advising me to stay off the roads, the father and his girlfriend both tried to argue with the officer about the weather. I have the whole event documented with emails and audio recordings. So - even though I had the proof of the weather warnings, the police report, and all of the threats and accusations that were clearly not true, he still took me to court to try to have me sanctioned for "interfering with his parenting time", accusing me of making up lies about a blizzard in order to prevent his parenting time.

This is what a "loving father" he is to the children. He was insisting on my driving them several hours through a dangerous blizzard, as he completely denied the weather that was right in front of him. All of the documents and audio proves that he had ZERO regard for the children that day.

This is the "loving father" that I am dealing with.

Back to the threatening letter from the attorney today, the attorney ended off by demanding and instructing that I IMMEDIATELY log into the co-parenting website and post exactly what time I would be driving the children across the border to meet their father. (Remember - his father cannot enter our country because of his criminal record for violently raping and trying to kill me.)

This is what was being demanded of me in response to my mother sending the message that I was on my way following Police to the hospital with our child and that we were not going to be able to drive across the border yet - it is demanded that I immediately post the time that I will be at the exchange when my message is that I am following the Police who have my child with them, and are on the way to the hospital.

I will post more later, but I have to get ready now to meet my child at another hospital. He is in "hospital custody" being transported in ambulance to another hospital who is is preparing a room for him, about 3 hours away.

I am so afraid that my child hates being in the hospital as well. He wants to come home already. He does not want to be there, but also afraid to see his father, so he is feeing so hopeless with nowhere to feel safe and relaxed.

This worries me for what is going to happen if the Judge orders again that he go see his father....I don't want to think about this, but what if he just goes ahead and does the unthinkable suddenly out of desperation feeling as though he is doomed...This is what his siblings are afraid of....They know exactly how he feels and why ...

If I can't get an attorney asap to help protect my child from having to go visit his father I am afraid of what he is going to do to himself since the father is aggressively coming after me legally right now to force the child to go with him. The father doesn't care that the child says he is going to kill himself if he has to go with him - The father is making everyone think that I am making up stories and nobody is able to help protect this child right now...

I'm scared.





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