Awakening Overcoming Spiritual Abuse Camino de Santiago

Update posted by ElnaNel On Sep 03, 2012

by Serdar Ozkan

‘Tree, oh, tree, with what should I bless you?

“Should I bless you that your fruit be sweet? Your fruit is already sweet.

“Should I bless you that your shade be plentiful? Your shade is plentiful. That a spring of water should run beneath you? A spring of water runs beneath you.

“There is one thing with which I can bless you:
‘May it be God’s will that all the trees planted from your seed should be like you…”

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Update posted by ElnaNel On Aug 27, 2012

The Results And Damage Of This Abuse

 When God opens our eyes to see the truth about the group and ourselves, it is in every respect devastating. Our entire cultic world and life view collapses, and there is nothing left.  'We' are not there - only the core is left. Healing is the full removal of the cultic persona and the rebuilding of our pre-cult selves. Healing does not terminate upon the self. Most of all it is coming to a true understanding of God as our tender, loving Father, and of living by grace

Problems: 1 reaction that all face is deep, and sometimes suicidal depression. 2. Initially this is due to the entire belief system collapsing into a pile of ruin.

There is nothing left upon which to base hope or faith. For the emotionally abused of a cult this is extremely distressful, especially as true emotions begin to reemerge. As time goes on and one sees the years of life, the possibilities of youth, and even marriage and parenting irretrievably lost, there is added grief, sorrow and guilt.

The bright hope and idealism of life has been stolen, and all seems like an endless unlit road of mere existence.

 These two debilitating emotions, depression and anger, may last for many months, often requiring  anti-depressants to make it through this initial stage of their recovery.

Conflicting emotions rise and fall often for no apparent reason. This pattern gradually disappears as healing progresses, but may last for a year or longer. It is not a sign of failure, but a sign of the depth of the damage done to the soul and of the healing that is taking place deep

within as the real person begins to feel reality again. There is a sense of purposelessness and disconnection from life coupled with unbearable loneliness, isolation and alienation. There may be fears of losing one's salvation and waves of guilt for leaving the cult - even denials of the ver abuse that led to the departure.

 Fears of going crazy and the sense that no one understands (which, except for other former cultists, is true) further isolates the broken and battered former member.

There is embarrassment at having been 'so stupid' to have ever become involved and shame at all that you did while in the cult - especially if you recruited other members and joined in condemning those who left before you were finally set free.

The list could go on. With all of these problems, how can recovery ever reach the place where a former member of an abusive church is restored to health and usefulness?

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Update posted by ElnaNel On Aug 19, 2012

A friend of mine shared this with me out of the book of Paulo Coelho: Aleph

The person doing the begging does so because he’s needy, but the person doing the giving also does so out of need.  The almes money serves as a link between these two needs,  and the atmosphere in the town improves because everyone is able to act in a way in which he or she needed to act.  You are on a pilgrimage, and it’s time to do something for the cities you visit.

On the other hand, I know very few people capable of receiving, even when the gift is given with love and generosity.  It’s as if the act of receiving made them inferior, as if depending on someone else were undignified.   I someone is giving us something that’s because we’re incapable of getting it for ourselves or else:  The person giving me this now will one day ask for it back with interest. Or even worse:  I don’t  deserve to be treated well.

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Update posted by ElnaNel On Aug 07, 2012

It's Frock-"tember", Baby! Help me raise money to fund my project!!

Meaning: Frock - a gown or dress worn by a girl or woman / "tember" - September (starting of my project)

So, what am I going to do to rock the frock?

I have a couple of pledges for Frock-tember":

It's going to be fun month!

The Most Famous Boutique: House of Superior Clothing - has committed to support my fundraising effort by donating an amount of all Matric Farewell dresses that are purchased during the month of August / September 2012.

How can you help?

* Head on over to my pledge page and donate a little moulah to help me reach my goal

You'll see my little pledge widget over there

* Do you need a Matric Farewell Dress? I'd love to rock one of your frocks, help spread the word about your Matric Farewell dress, and raise money for my cause all in one big wonderful mushy win/win/win moment of goodness. Get in touch through me! OR mention my Name when you purchase your beautiful dress. (Please let me
know, because they asked me to keep book).

P.S. his also goes for anyone else out there who would like that special dress for wedding or a Year-end function.* Spread he word about Frock-"tember" by linking back to this post, as well as sharing it with your social media friends!

Like to get involved yourself? Head on over to ttp://goo.gl/ZywhQ for all the info!

ELNA NEL

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Update posted by ElnaNel On Jul 31, 2012

"Generosity consists not the sum given, but the manner in which it is bestowed" - Mahatma Gandhi

Row, row, row your boat
Gently down the stream
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily
Life is but a dream

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"As one person I cannot change the world, but I can change the world of one person." - Paul Shane Spear

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Pay attention to your allies A warrior does not associate with anyone who wishes him harm. Nor is he seen in the company of those who want to console%93%94 him. He avoids whoever is only at his side in moments of defeat. These false friends w ant to prove that weakness has its rewards. They always bear bad news. They always try to destroy the warriors trust, under the disguise of %92%93solidarity. When they see him injured they break into tears, but deep in their hearts they are happy because the warrior has lost a battle. They fail to understand that this is a part of combat. A warrior%94%92s true companions are at his side at each and every moment, in times both difficult and easy. Paulo Coelho

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Posted On Sep 03, 2012

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All the best Elna! I know this will be a life-changing experience for you. I pray that God would meet you exactly at your expectation! I also pray that there would be supernatural healing and a level of intimacy that youve never experience before. I%92%92m very proud of you and know you can do this!!! Lots of love Anina

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Posted On Sep 03, 2012

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Mom i am so proud of you , to take this big step and asking the world for help , i also know how hard this was for you to do because you don't like asking others for help, but i know that the people will see your hart and help you to achieve your goal, and know i am 110% behind you!!!! thanks to all of you that want to help , you are REALLY helping my MOM but also our Family :D

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Posted On Aug 07, 2012

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You go girl!!!

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Posted On Aug 06, 2012

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Please support Elna, she is following her heart and dreams, I admire this brave friend, she is doing what most of us are too scared to even contemplate.

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Posted On Aug 03, 2012

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Supporting you 100% and trust your dream will come true!! Love you!

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Posted On Aug 03, 2012

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Go and see this video 2: It is a guys journey for 30 Days to Santiago is a multi-media photo journal that documents a young pilgrim's epic adventure across Spain as he treks 500 miles on the Camino de Santiago. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EppyMumKRHU&feature=related THIS IS MY DREAM

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Posted On Jul 24, 2012

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Thank you! Will keep everyone updated on the site of my progress! You already made the difference.

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Posted On Jul 23, 2012

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Best of luck!!

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Posted On Jul 22, 2012

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