I need to provide context first, so bear with me........I met my husband on 18/12/1981 and knew he was the love of my life. We had two beautiful, smart children in 1991 and 1996 and life was good. Then, in 2007, life threw us a curveball. My husband addiction to alcohol became unbearable. Driving our children to school whilst intoxicated; forgetting to fetch them became part of daily life. I gave him an ultimatum, not because I had fallen out of love with him but because he needed to understand the impact his lifestyle was having on us all. Eventually, in 2009, we got divorced and the children and I moved in to rented accommodation. His downward spiral continued until he finally admitted himself for treatment at a hospital. He stayed dry from July 2010 onwards and we spoke about making a go of it again. But it was to be. He phoned me one night on 23 February 2011, unable to breath. I rushed to his home only to be unable to get in. I heard his last breath and he left us that night forever........
Because we were divorced, his pension went t my son in the form of an investment that can only be accessed on retirement. My son was 15 at the time!
Both children proceeded through school and my daughter went on to study psychology at university. I funded these through loans. This year she is completing her masters and is on an academic scholarship. She's always been a studious young lady and I'm very proud of her achievements.
Bradley however, didn't excel at school. He passed, but by the skin of his teeth. I have always known that he wasn't a mainstream kind of child. He is creative, has intelligence beyond his years and a sense of humor some may find strange. Nevertheless, when after taking a gap year, he expressed a desire to go in to the art of film making and associated disciplines at AFDA, I was thrilled. His first 6 weeks have been fantastic for him. He has come out of his shell and loves what he does. Remember that this is a boy that had to take on a tremendous responsibility when his father passed away, hence the immense pride I feel.
My challenge though is the fees. I am struggling to make the payments. If he could get a scholarship, that would be great but until that opportunity presents itself, I just need to make sure I give my son the best education I can. South Africa is still a country that has tremendous opportunities for young people. I just want to give Bradley the start he needs.