This is the story of our biggest dream to become a family.
Will you please help us make it a reality, and let us start living our dream of becoming parents to a beautiful child.
I Cath-Mari Mostert (31) and my Husband Andre’ Mostert (32) have been together since I was 18 years old. Like a typical young couple we were in love and head over heels for each other since the day we met. We know exactly what we wanted in life and where our relationship was going. We dated for 2 years where we could see each other every 2 to 3 months as we lived 550km from each other but we made it work and appreciated every moment we could be together. My husband lived in he’s home town of Springbok in the Northern Cape a place that we would call our “HOME” a couple of years later and I lived in Cape Town. My husband moved to Cape Town to be with me and started working as an apprentice to become a mechanic. By then I was already a qualified BAA (Basic Ambulance Assistant) and started learning for a home-based care (caregiver) we lived in a flat at the back of my parent’s house that is where our humble begging’s started. We got engaged and got married in 2013 on the 29th of March. From the day we lived to gather my husband worked so hard to always provide for the two of us and nothing is ever too much no matter how tiered he may be that’s just how wonderful he is. He will always help anyone in need and be there for family and friends. The both of us have always wanted a big family, there was never any question about it. We knew that it was not going to be a very easy road for us, as I was diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome) a couple of years earlier. When I was first diagnosed I was heartbroken as there is nothing more in this life that I wanted to be more then to become a mother one day, and I know that with this diagnosis that there would be slim to none chance for it to happen naturally . When we frits started to talk about getting married and a family I had to tell my husband the difficult news that it might not happen for us and I knew how much he wanted kids I was so scared as I know that for some people this conversation does not always go well and leads to so much hurt and pain. As I was telling my husband this, there was never for one moment any resentment in his eyes as he sat and listened to me telling him that we may never have kids. He hugged me and said that he loves me and everything will be okay and that God has a plan for everything in life. Still I wondered but what if it never happens for us would he still feel the same. By the end of 2013 we moved to Springbok and in 2014 the most incredible thing happened God blessed us by becoming pregnant with our daughter Annami Mostert we could not believe that our biggest dream came true and we were so excited for the new chapter in our lives. I remember every moment of my pregnancy, every little detail of how I felt the look in my husband eyes when I first told him that God has blessed us and that we are expecting. The 1st scan where we heard her little heart beat for the 1st time, I could not believe that one person could be so blessed to have it all. I remember thinking how lucky I am for having it all, everything that anyone could ever ask for ,a husband that adored me, a house that was about to become the home where we are going to be a family for the 1st time. We were so happy, every morning before work my husband would hug and kiss my belly and talk to our little miracle growing snug as a bug. He would talk to her as he believed that she could hear he’s voice and he wanted her to know how much she was already loved. I use to talk to her every day while I was busy writing a dairy for her on my phone so that I could make it in to her own little bed time storybook about her journey into this world and our lives as she was our miracle our biggest dream. I would tell her everything about our days and the silly little things my husband did or say I wanted to document everything so that one day she would know just how much she was loved and wanted from the 1st day we found out we were pregnant. Six months into my pregnancy we went for a 4D scan and it was amazing we were so happy. By then you could see so much more and almost tell who she is going to look like. That night I went to sleep and our whole lives changed for ever. The morning when I woke up I know something was wrong and we went to the hospital where they would tell us that I started dilating during the night. I was too far a long for them to stop the dailitng and I had to stay in hospital I was there for a week were they did everything to try and help our princess stay longer we prayed and asking God please not take our little girl but she was to beautiful for earth and God needed her more. She was born on the 15th of October 2014 and was perfect in every way and looked just like my husband. She was so strong and tried to hold on for as long as she could. She passed in our arms with a room filled with everyone who loved her dearly in the sort time she was part of our lives. I never knew that one could feel so much pain and still be able to go on living. But we had so much support from our family and friends. Since our daughter passed we have been trying for 7 years to conceive again but it has not happened for us.
Throughout the 7 years we have talk about adopting. We believe that there is more than one way for us becoming a family. We have so much love to give a child and helping them to know what love is and being wanted and supported throughout their lives and help them accomplish their dreams and comfort them when life gets hard sometimes. But most of all, to help them become the wonderful human being that God has intended them to be. We cannot imagine our lives without kids in it. Adopting is a very long and expensive process and as we live so far away from the adoption agency it is very costly as we have to drive more then 1100km to there and back home again. There are also adoption fees, psychologist fees and so forth. It was not an easy decision to tell our story and asked for help to raise funds for our adoption dream to come true but we hoped that there will be people that understand the hurt of secondary infertility and the emotional journey of trying to have a family. Thank you for taking the time to read our story because without the help and generosity of everyone our dream cannot become a reality. Please help us make our dream come true and make our house a home by helping us become parents to a beautiful child of our own.
All our love and appreciation
Andre’ and Cathy Mostert