Adopting Baby Els

Update posted by Margaret Els On Jul 16, 2019

15 | 07 | 2019

I was a nervous wreck on my way to Aevitas Fertility Clinic this morning: All the memories of the invasive tests and procedures, clinical coldness, and shattered hopes from three failed IVF cycles came flooding back to mind. Thankfully my beautiful friend, Claire, was right there by my side for moral support, as Werner could not get off work.

This 7 year journey has been a painful one, physically, emotionally, financially, and a grapple with God spiritually for both Werner and I, but the last two days He has been unusually amplified and has been speaking to us in so many amazing ways.

At church yesterday, we were reminded that our struggles haven't been in vain (Romans 5:3-5), but in fact necessary to strengthen our marriage, deepen our faith, anchor our hope, equip us for our jobs, and most importantly to build character so that we can become the parents we were chosen to be (James 1:2-4).

Professor Kruger was so gentle, kind and knowledgeable, that I felt so at ease in his presence. He explained that there are in fact a few frozen embryos in their Snowflake Project bank and that he'd be happy to assist us with a possible 'match' - they look at everything from medical history, biological features, intelligence and educational similarities, and even talents/gifted abilities.

"But first," he said, "let's test you both again and see if we can't help you make your own little person." Professor Kruger believes I might've been misdiagnosed and he thinks Werner has been too. I explained to him that IVF through a state hospital left us with serious debt that we are only now starting to recover from, and that we simply are not able to afford private medical fees. With kind eyes he smiled and said, "We'll do only what you are able to afford" and even gave us a 'coupon' (as he described it) for our next session in two weeks time to be absolutely gratis.

In the initial interview, he asked how Werner and I met and, as I always do, I lit up when I told him our story and how I knew we were God-ordained for one another. When he learned that we were believers, we found a common connection and he spoke freely of his faith.

Afterwards, he sent me for my routine check-up tests, including one to recheck my ovum reserve, but his greeting words to me was: "John 15:5" and a knowing wink. When we looked it up in the waiting room, I got goosebumps and teary at the recognition of the message he gave me, a promise from God:

"I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing."

Just, wow. God is so good, and today the air was thick with His loving presence.

Please continue to keep us in your prayers as we do some more tests this week. Our next appointment is on Monday 29th at 10am and we should know more then. Much love!

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Update posted by Margaret Els On Jul 16, 2019

11 | 07 | 2019

We are so deeply moved by those of you who have been supporting us through the waiting process. And we wept with gratitude when our R60k mark for our Baby Els Fund was not only met, but surpassed! May God see each and everyone's selfless gift and bless you richly.

Some more wonderful news: We finally have our appointment with Aevitas Fertility Clinic to see the renowned Professor Kruger about embryo adoption! (Read about him here: https://www.aevitasfertilityclinic.co.za/clinicians/prof-thinus-kruger/)

For transparency sake, we will be using R2120 of our Baby Els Fund to pay for our first appointment on Monday 15th July at 10am. Please keep us in your prayers!

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Update posted by Margaret Els On Jul 16, 2019

24 | 5 | 2019

So here's the hard part: Waiting.

I often struggle with this season; wanting to be busy with something, to feel a part of the process somehow, and to just have the slightest illusion of control, you know?

But now all the paperwork, assessments and interviews are done, the profile book has been made and given to the adoption agency, and then nothing. Nothing for us to do but wait.

And in our waiting we are learning to trust, to hope again. Because we know that a trusting attitude and a patient attitude go hand in hand. And patience is not just about waiting for something, it's about how you wait, your attitude while waiting.

Thank you SO MUCH to everyone who still continue to give towards our Baby Els fund. We're almost halfway there and blessed beyond measure!

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Update posted by Margaret Els On Apr 04, 2019

04 | 04 | 2019

A huge thank you again to everyone who has donated to the BabyEls fund so far! We are so deeply grateful for every little bit and appreciate your love and support throughout it all.

Today, we've sent in all our paperwork -- a great big stack of it! It included a 20 page application form, medical reports, financial reports, legal records, and many other documents for both Werner and I. So this mommy-to-be might not have a bump or morning sickness, but she sure has papercuts!

I will also be collecting our Family Profile booklet from the printers soon, which will be shown to potential biological moms with the hopes that one will choose us as the parents of her baby. When that's all done and dusted, we'll officially be "paper pregnant"!

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Update posted by Margaret Els On Mar 15, 2019

15 | 03 | 2019

Yesterday we attended our first appointment and full-day information session with Amoré Malherbe at Wilna Malherbe Adoption Services in the Strand. It was a long day (9:30am to 4pm) and we got a figurative METRIC TON of information to absorb, but she was so friendly and accommodating. She even served us snacks and a delicious lunch during the session.

Even though we were nervous and didn't quite know what to expect, it was a very positive experience and we had a lot of our question answered and worries put to rest. There were even options such as embryonic adoption, which were highlighted that we didn't even realise were available to us.

As previously mentioned, we've already paid the initial R7000 necessary to start this 'Screening Process'. This includes our agency's Enrich Prepare Program, Psycho-Social Assessment (which is our homework for the weeks ahead), yesterday's information session, as well as the required processing of data and admin fees.

We also have to put together a family profile in order to advertise ourselves to possible biological moms as soon as possible! So please pray for God's guiding hand in that.

After the initial interview, we now have a better understanding of the timeframe involved for white babies (they place about 4 babies a year) and the possible future expenses, which I will explain in detail soon.

Thank you for your prayers. We love you all, as always. x

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I know God has big plans for you!

Elizma Van Niekerk

Backed with R300.00 On Jul 15, 2019

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Tannie Mo, you’re so amazing. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts! 💕

Margaret Els

Posted On Mar 12, 2019

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Hoping for a great outcome.

Maureen Svacha

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Ag, Elmari - ek kan nie genoeg dankie sê nie! Jy is so ’n blessing! Ons waardeer dit opreg! 💙

Margaret Els

Posted On Mar 11, 2019

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Liefste Werner en Tish, julle is sulke ongelooflike mense! Soveel liefde, soveel glo, en soveel vasbyt deur die hartseer en verlies. Ek kan nie aan 'n beter ouerpaar dink as julle twee nie!! Baba Els is super gelukkig om julle te kry :) Ek deel julle opgewondeheid en kan nie wag om te kom kuier en tante te speel nie. Al my liefde, E

Elmari Swart

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Thank you so much, Brian! 💜

Margaret Els

Posted On Mar 10, 2019

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Good luck and I to see the three of you in Ireland some day

Brian Boyce

Backed with R820.00 On Mar 10, 2019

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