ONE MAN AND HIS DOG DESPERATELY TRYING TO SURVIVE

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 24, 2017

A huge THANK YOU to all our usual supporters ... Steph , Mimi , Kathleen , Kent , Kirsten , Nancy and Ronnie who just donated .. once again you've all helped Tony this weekend and we are so grateful to you all .

Tony now has some funds to take him into this coming week .. but he has to have his 2 nights away on Wednesday and Thursday and has had to make a reservation for Friday and Saturday already because again the hotel is sold out . At the moment Tony is beside himself with worry as no one is free to take him to another hotel and the ones close by are all around $100 a night . At the moment he can cover Monday and Tuesday and will have maybe $100 left towards the other hotel . This means that he is going to still need to get extra donated to cover 2 nights at the other hotel and only has till Wednesday to get it in .
When we spoke on web cam tonight all he could do was sob to me that he was going to lose Rocky and was going to be in the streets and lose everything . He had been trying to call other hotels close by but they were all around $100 or more and he had no way to get to the one hed stayed at before which was around $80 a night ... he was in a real panic because he knew all our regular donors had already donated and we probably wont get anything in now because of that . He said he is so scared and worried and his blood pressure is sky high and he can hardly move his right leg and feels like hes going to fall every time he walks . Please is there anyone who hasn't donated yet that might be able to make a donation tonight to help cover Tony's 2 nights at the other hotel ? Anything you can donate WILL help even just $10 .. it will add up if enough of you donate even just that bit .

If you can donate tonight please use [email protected] on Paypal and send via the send to family and friends option ... this way Tony will get the full amount you donate .
There is still of course this fundraiser where lots of extra information and photos can be found https://gogetfunding.com/1manandhisdog/ but if you donate that way a fee will be taken off your donation before Tony gets it .

THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR ANYTHING YOU CAN DONATE TONIGHT ... TONY IS VERY DISTRAUGHT AND A MESS TONIGHT AND DESPERATELY NEEDS YOUR HELP

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 23, 2017

Thanks for contacting me about peoples fears . The trouble is people see the fund raiser and knowing very little about myself or Tony start jumping to conclusions and forming their own opinions . I try and explain to them they are wrong about things but they've already made up their minds and don't want to hear or consider anything else .

I met Tony totally by chance because we both like the same UK ban from back in the 70's . I picked his name totally randomly from a mailing list for news on this band because he was on AOL too and we could chat on there about the band . Which is what it was to start with .. we started chatting on line with more fans and discovered sites online where we also got to know more fans as well as chatting together on our own too .
After wed been chatting like this for maybe a year Tony said something about having a lot going on at home .. and I just said I was there for him if he wanted to talk about it . He said it wasn't something he found easy to talk about and I said OK but if he needed someone I was a good listener . He's like that doesn't find it easy to open up to people .. likes to keep himself to himself and feels ashamed of what's happened to him . For some reason though he was able to tell me about having problems at work and falling behind with the rent and the house being in receivership .. never asking for anything other than what I was .. a friend that would listen and be there for him without judging him or expecting anything from him .. just someone he could offload to and trust .
They lost their home and for 6 years lived part of each month in their car on the streets and part in a hotel when they had enough to cover a room . Through this time I was there for him and we were in touch via the Internet or phone calls or texts almost every day . He cared for his father and learning disabled brother on his own in these circumstances even after his father had bowel cancer which left him with a colostomy bag . So many times he would beg me to pray they all just died because it was a living hell they were going through .. and so many times I managed to help him hold it together and face another day . Never did he ask me for anything more than that though .
It was after they spent Christmas and new year out in their car one year with no food to eat and I was here having our usual family Christmas it was horrible because I was so very worried about them at the same time . I vowed never would they have another Christmas like that . The following Christmas I asked Tony if he'd let me do him a fund raiser to make sure they had a room over Christmas . IT WAS ME THAT ASKED HIM TO LET ME DO IT FOR HIM .. MY IDEA NOT HIS . He was dead against it saying no way did he want people knowing his business and about his private life . I want going to be put off though .. I wanted them safe this time and never wanted to have a Christmas like the previous one again . I eventually persuaded him to let me do them one .. so long as no names or addresses or other information about them was used and so long as I ran it for him so it didn't cause him extra stress and hassle .Which is why at first they were just done as being for a friend .. no names were used ... why no addresses of hotels were given out .. and why it was only photos of the dogs because I respected his wishes . It took a lot of persuading to let me use photos of him and his brother on there and use his name .. its only recently hes allowed this . That is when the first one was done and up till his dads death it was just the odd one done to make sure they had a room over holidays .
When his dad died all his brothers benefits were recalculated and he never knew what money they would get when for about 4 months . This is when I did the fund raisers more often to make sure they had something coming in when they had nothing . They were both extremely distraught about his dads death and because of all the worry were never really given time to grieve properly . At this time they were still having to live part of each month in their car .. but the car was getting very old and when it became unusable I started doing fund raisers for them so they could hold onto their hotel room because they no longer had the car to use .

That answers how I know him I hope . As for have I found ways to verify what hes saying yes I've phoned him via the hotel number before , I've sent packages direct to his hotel for him , I've spoken to him on Skype and spoken to his dad and brother many times too . When his brother died I was very very worried about him .. very scared he might not be able to get through it and he was talking a lot about finding a way to kill himself . I called the hotel where he was staying and asked if they could keep a close eye on him because I was very worried about him . They must of got in touch with some crisis centre because a policeman came and checked he was OK and asked if he was likely to harm himself . I have lots of photos of him and his brother and one he sent of his dad taken whilst his dad was in hospital and ones of his brother seriously ill in hospital with cancer .
When we had that Amanda Bradie causing trouble I made a chat room on Facebook for all of those who had become loyal supporters and donated regularly and posted the fund raiser out on Facebook when they saw my posts .. those I knew we could trust and invited Tony too .. it also came in useful when I went away on holiday for a week and my Internet was a bit hit and miss .. I added him in and told him to pop in there if he needed to talk , that those in there were our supporters and he could trust them .. I was surprised to see he had been in there to be honest as like I say he likes to keep himself to himself .. and it was one of that band of supporters who took him the food . She did this even though she was and in fact still is battling a kidney infection herself . Some times people doubting the validity of things have asked for proof of what hes paid for the hotel and on several occasions when he was at the other hotel hes asked them to do a full print off for the month and photographed it and e mailed it to me so I can add it to the gallery on the fund raiser . Now they are at the new hotel its a bit different .. but when asked for proof and receipts for the hotel .. he took a photograph of the 2 most recent receipts he had and sent them me for me to add to the gallery .. which I did ..... he can prove what has been spent on the room because hes doing what he says he is and is in need ... he is so stressed a lot of the time that its all he can do to survive another day .. I know this because I have spoken to him on these days and heard him sobbing down the phone .. other times getting so angry and frustrated with things and other times saying he doesn't care any more and just wants to get off this world because he doesn't belong .. and begs me to pray he dies so he doesn't have to go on like this any more . There's days where a horrible black depression gets a hold of him and even I cant make much difference to him .
I hope from the above you can see I have lots of ways of knowing Tony is who he says he is and verifying everything is true ... HE IS IN NO WAY SCAMMING ME OR ANYONE ELSE .. everything is exactly as it says on the fund raiser and this guy has truly been through so much .. I doubt many could of got through even half what he has . So many times its been me that's given him the strength to go on and got him through yet another day , week , month in hell . Me that's been the gaffer tape holding him together when hes breaking into a million pieces . For years that's all I was .. someone to just BE THERE FOR HIM WITHOUT JUDGING .. and it was ME that persuaded him to let ME do the fund raisers ...... The problem is there are some who do scam others out there ...... and we all get tarred with the same brush . I appreciate people are trying to look out for me ... and worry that things aren't what he makes out .. BUT I KNOW 1000% they are ...... and have been with him holding him together every step of the way for a long long time and for much of that time that's all it was .. me being a friend he could talk to ...... he asked for nothing more . You try and explain this to them but without knowing the full facts they have already made up their mind and start shouting about how its a scam and don't want to hear or believe anything else and those in genuine need suffer for it .. If they don't feel comfortable donating that's fine .. just skip over it ... and I understand people being concerned and that its hard to know who is genuine and who is not .. but I have no doubts or concerns when it comes to Tony as over the years , and its been many more than the ones I've done fund raisers , I have had proof of things so very many times and been able to verify everything so many times .

I hope this explains things to you and that you see that those people are wrong this is me wanting to help a friend in genuine need .. nothing more and nothing less .. and no one is scamming anyone at all . Thanks again for contacting me and I do appreciate all that you and others from the site do .. Thank You .. Jill xxx

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 23, 2017

Hi everyone thank you all for your support , sadly last night no one was able to donate and at the moment Tony only has enough to cover his room up till Monday .. just one more night after tonight . I'm trying to get the fund raiser posted out early in the hope maybe some new people might see it and be able to donate something . Tony is not doing at all well at the moment and nearly fell again during the night . He is very very stressed and worried and his blood pressure is dangerously high still . He is feeling very dizzy and confused and finding it hard to think straight ... hes saying he has to leave on Monday but I think thats because thats when his money will run out because he has only had a week back and should be able to stay 14 days which is till a week on Sunday . He gets very confused at times but I try and think straight for him at those times . Heres the message hes just sent me

I'm stresseing out today I'm very nervous and scared I don't know how I'm gonna get out of here I'm very scared I'm crying will I type to you my face is full of tears I be back in a few my head is killing me today I'm not resting at all I'm so worried and scared. Please e-mail everyone please it's critical I gotta find another hotel and the only one I can go to is the rock star hotel and there gonna be 200 fir two nights I'm getting very sick and worried I just wanna be with my father but He Don't want me ....ow god
Please can anyone else donate anything ... If we dont get something in and another night or two covered then Tony will have to leave on Monday and will be in the streets with no where to go .. this is urgent again now and anything you can donate will help cover another night or two for Tony and keep him safe . Even just $10 or $20 will all add up and help keep Tony and Rocky safe if enough people donate it .

If you are able to donate the best way to do so is to use [email protected] on pay pal .. that way so long as you use the send to family and friends option Tony will get the full amount you send .
There is also this fund raiser with lots of information and photos on it .. but if you donate this way a fee will be taken off what you donate before Tony gets it . https://gogetfunding.com/1manandhisdog/

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ANYTHING YOU CAN DONATE TONIGHT .. IT WILL BE A TRUE LIFE SAVER TO TONY AND ROCKY AND WE THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF OUR HEARTS XXX

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 23, 2017

Today would of been Tonys Dad's birthday .. so its a hard day to get through for Tony who still misses his dad and brother so much . We were on facebook video chat at what would of been 3am for Tony and he was not sleeping and just really heartbroken. He was sobbing about being in the streets and losing Rocky and why did his dad and brother have to die and not him and saying he cant do this and wants to be with his family . I had work this afternoon so wasn't able to message him till what would of been 2pm his time and he was just telling me to just forget him and let him go die in the streets and be with his family again . Its so heartbreaking when someone who has become such a dear friend is hurting so badly and your stuck so far away with no chance of being able to give them the hug you so wish you could . Here's the last message left me .... I'm gonna die in the streets I have no where to go and no way out of here and I'm gonna die already fell today I just wanna be with my father . Just forget me and let me die in the streets I havnt spoke to him since so dont know any more about the fall .. but you can see hes not good at all today ... Will check in with him again when Ive sent this before I go to bed .

Please can anyone donate anything tonight to help Tony hold onto his room ... If this is what hes like when hes in a room .. I dread to think how he would be if he lost his room and was on the streets . I have started my new job this week but get paid on the last day of the month so it will be the end of October before I get my first proper wages .. but after that I hope I can maybe do a bit more myself ... although I have had to use my credit card and will have that to pay off too . If we could get another night .. $70 covered tonight that would be great .. and maybe a bit extra because Tony is struggling to get to the grocery store so might need to buy take away food locally until he can get there again .

If anyone can donate the best way is to use [email protected] on Paypal .. if you send using the family and friends option then Tony will get the full amount you send .
There is also this fund raiser https://gogetfunding.com/1manandhisdog/ but if you donate that way a fee will be taken off before Tony gets it

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ANYTHING YOU CAN DONATE TONIGHT ... WE CANT GIVE TONY A HUG TO HELP HIM GET THROUGH TODAY .. BUT HOW ABOUT DONATING $10 EACH TO SUBSTITUTE THE HUG WE ALL WISH WE COULD GIVE HIM ? HE DESPERATELY NEEDS SOMETHING TO MAKE HIM FEEL LOVED TONIGHT WHEN HE IS FEELING SO ALONE PLEASE HELP IF YOU CAN XXX

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 22, 2017

Tony is very down today though ... tomorrow would of been his dad's birthday and hes very upset tonight saying he doesn't want to be here and wants to just die and be with his family again . It hasn't helped that one of his few friends who had been helping him is moving away from the area so he's feeling even more alone now too . They had spent quite a bit of time together recently and it had been someone for Tony to talk with. Tonight hes telling me to just forget everything and go to bed .. but you all know I dont listen to that .

Please can anyone else donate anything to help Tony tonight ?

If you can donate the e mail to use on paypal is [email protected] and if you send using the family and friends option then Tony will get the full amount you donate

There is also this fund raiser https://gogetfunding.com/1manandhisdog/ but if you donate that way a fee will be taken off what you send before Tony gets it .

THANK YOU FOR ANY HELP YOU CAN GIVE TONIGHT XXXX

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 21, 2017
I've just been on webcam with Tony and he's in a terrible state tonight .. worse than I've seen him before stressing out screaming he just wants to die .. please lets show him we care and get him at least another night covered .. he needs your support desperately tonight both to cover his room and for his mental state too . You know they talk about people having a mental breakdown or being in crisis .. well thats been Tonys life for the last 10 years , it's no way for anyone to have to live . Not long back I even found him a number that he called for a mental health crisis team ... all they did was told him it was housing he needed to speak to . Housing just say there's nothing available and put you on another long waiting list if someone doesn't help him soon then there wont be a Tony for much longer though .. hes in a full blown mental breakdown when hes been told his stress levels are putting his blood pressure up dangerously high .. even I wasn't making any difference tonight
Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 20, 2017

Hi everyone .. thank you all for all your recent donations that have kept Tony and Rocky safe in their room up to now . Every dollar donated is truly appreciated and is a true life saver to them .

Tony had been feeling a little bit better but his money has gone down again now and hes feeling quite stressed and worried again . The hotel have been refurbishing the rooms and the price has gone up by about $10 a night . So long as Tony can reserve his room in advance though he can still pay $65 . If he makes a reservation though the money will be taken out of his account so its important he has money in it to cover the reservation or if he gets overdrawn he could lose his bank account . At the moment he only has funds to cover one more night and still needs to cover the weekend . Please we need to get donations in so he can cover Friday, Saturday and Sunday ... $200 . As weekends are when the hotel could sell out , the sooner we can get funds in to cover this so Tony can make a reservation the better . Please help with a donation tonight if you can .. even if we can only get 1 more night .. $65 covered it will help .

If you are able to donate the best way is to use [email protected] on paypal using the family and fiends option . This means Tony will get the full amount you donate .

There is also this fund raiser https://gogetfunding.com/1manandhisdog/ with more information on it but if you donate this way a fee will be taken off your donation before Tony gets it . There is lots more information on there though and photos too so please take a look .

THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR ANY HELP YOU CAN GIVE TONIGHT

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 18, 2017

PLease can anyone else donate or share to help us keep Tony and Rocky safe for the rest of this week .. we got another night covered last night .. thanks so very much Steph .. but still need the rest of the week covering . Thank you for any help you can give xxxxxxxx

If you can help [email protected] is the e mail to use on paypal and its the family and friends option you need to select to make sure Tony gets the full amount you send .
If any of you want to help share the fund raiser the link is https://gogetfunding.com/1manandhisdog/ and you can of course donate there too but a fee will be taken off your donation before Tony gets it . There is lots more information on there though and more photos too so please take the time to go check it out .

PLEASE KNOW THAT WE APPRECIATE ALL OUR SUPPORTERS DO AND KNOW YOU ALL DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN FOR TONY AND ROCKY AND WE THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF OUR HEARTS FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT XXXX

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 18, 2017

A big thank you goes out to Kent , Mimi , Kathleen and Kirsten .. your donations have kept Tony safe and in a room this weekend .. Thank you so very very much .

Here its been a busy weekend celebrating both my husbands 70th birthday and my Dads 80th birthday . Its been lovely to celebrate with family .. going out for a meal on Saturday and having family here today . Whilst I've been doing that though its been a weekend of worry for Tony and I wished so much he could of been here with us instead .. safe and happy . Hes hardly been able to even chat on facebook because hes been feeling so ill and exhausted and is still convinced he is going to be in the streets very soon and die . We kept him safe through the weekend but now hes back to just enough money to cover one more night in his room .. and very scared and worried and says hes so dizzy he can hardly walk today .
Last night it was quite late when we got back and I was too tired to post out the fund raiser .. just had a quick check in with Tony before going to bed . Please is there anyone out there who can donate tonight to help Tony stay safe through the rest of this week ? Every $65 we get in will keep them safe for an extra night and anything you can donate will be an extra step towards us doing that . PLease help tonight if you can .

If you are able to donate the best way is to use [email protected] on Paypal and send it using the family and friends option . This way Tony will get the full amount you send .
There is also this fund raiser you can use .. https://gogetfunding.com/1manandhisdog/ ... but a fee will be taken off what you donate before Tony gets it . There is lots more information on Tony and little Rocky on there though and photos etc so please go take a look .

REMEMBER IF YOU CAN'T DONATE SHARING HELPS FIND THOSE WHO CAN AND IS VERY MUCH APPRECIATED .. THANK YOU

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ANY HELP YOU CAN GIVE TONIGHT XXX

Update posted by Jill Ashmore On Sep 15, 2017

Hi everyone .. Thank you to Kathleen and Kirsten for your donations ... they will go a long way to covering this weekend .

Tony has made it to the other hotel safely and has had to pay a bit more at that hotel for his room . He is still very worried about having funds to cover the weekend and next week and needs to get some food for himself and for Rocky too . He is very very exhausted and says he feels ready to drop and is still insisting he will be in the streets . Please dont let that happen to him .

Please can we try and get in another $75 in tonight so he knows he will be able to cover the weekend and get some food for Rocky .

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ANY HELP YOU CAN GIVE TONIGHT XXX

If you can donate anything tonight the e mail to use on paypal is [email protected] and if you use the send to family and friends option Tony will get the full amount you donate .

There is also this fundraiser you can use but a fee will be taken off your donation before Tony gets it

AGAIN THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ANY HELP YOU CAN GIVE TONIGHT

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