Zoe and Connor Help Fund

update from Zoe 9/14/12
Update posted by Christine Stephens On Sep 14, 2012

Yup, still a widow... no amount of deeply help hope, or wishes, will change that. Still unemployed - Connor has had a difficult transition to school this year, primarily due to his newfound separation anxiety in the wake of Jim's death. I'm likely going to start with something part-time due to his struggles.

This help is invaluable! Thanks to all, and I'm hoping it can go a little bit higher. Connor needs me to remain more available for a bit longer - able to get him early at afterschool care if he's having a tough day, able to take off for an afternoon and just have some fun! He especially is helped by that. It lets him be a little kid momentarily unburdened by the profound losses that he's endured.

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from Zoe 8/10/12
Update posted by Christine Stephens On Aug 14, 2012

Thought I should update folks a bit now that almost 4 weeks have gone by since Jim's death. (Holy crap - how can it be that long? How can it have just happened so recently? Time = still very screwy).

We are getting through our days, some better than others. Connor and I talk a lot about Papa. He just really wants Papa. ME TOO!! *sigh* Alas... But, we are getting through. He is playing with his friends, enjoying daycamp, and sportin' a mohawk. I got laundry done today! Yay me!

The help we have received from friends/family/strangers has been and continues to be overwhelming, and so deeply appreciated. The funds set up by Christine have assured that my rent is paid at least through September, that Connor will have school clothes, that the power will be on.

Now that the fog is starting to lift, and I'm looking forward at least a bit, I am seeing needs that I had not anticipated; for one, I won't be going back to work until after Connor has started back to school, which is almost another month. There are several days between the end of daycamp and the start of school, and I am going to spend those days with him, exploring Portland, and just - being - with the guy. Then, as time goes forward, I will be finding support groups for both myself and for him.

This will likely entail additional childcare costs for the time it will necessitate my being apart from him in non-work/school hours. If there's one piece of advice I have gotten over and over, and what I know internally without doubt, is that we will need help to get through this really well, and that I MUST take care of myself to be able to be what Connor needs me to be. In this, I can't push myself to the bottom of the priority list as (gra-)mamas are so very good at doing. I will need a support group, thus I will need a babysitter.

Anyway, if anybody out there is still interested, or missed this, or wasn't connected on this here interwebby thingy, this fund is still open. It feels so wrong somehow to post this myself, but another thing I've heard again and again is, "Ask for what you need." Those of you who know me well know just how shitty I am at doing that. Those of you who don't know me well, trust me; I'm really shitty at asking for help.

So, thank you all again - and again - and again... Love from the bottom of my heart.

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I wish all the best for you guys and hope your funding continues.

Heriberto Rivera

Posted On Sep 13, 2012

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Zoe, grandma-extraordinaire. Sending you hugs and strength.

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Posted On Sep 03, 2012

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Blessed be the babies of the world left by parents to soon...my he never walk alone. Bless you Connor

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Posted On Aug 10, 2012

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Best wishes to Zoe & Connor!

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Posted On Aug 09, 2012

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Sorry for your loss...keeping you and your family in my prayers

stephanie sherman

Posted On Aug 07, 2012

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This is healthcare in the United States

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Posted On Aug 01, 2012

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My sister Madeleine asked me to help, and knowing that you are special to her is reason enough to lend a hand. Very best wishes to you in this difficult time.

Guest

Posted On Jul 31, 2012

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Zoe, you're an amazing grandmother. I have seen your knowledge and grace in the classroom with Connor time and time again. I have no doubt that you and Connor will continue to do great things! As the Quakers say, I am holding you both in the light.

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Posted On Jul 29, 2012

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Your story touches my heart, I am sorry for your loss. Keep reaching towards the stars & you will teach a child to grab them.

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Posted On Jul 26, 2012

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Conner is an amazing child, thank you both for giving that to him.

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Posted On Jul 26, 2012

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